Okay so I (F29) am in a new relationship with M37.
I have some pretty thick thighs and a donk to back it up with. I am definitely not lacking any junk in my trunk.
My ex hated that I’d gained weight ( I was 120 when we met and 190 when we split, I am 5’7 currently 170) and had an ultimatum that I lose it or I lose him so I dropped about 150lbs of jerk.
Since then I have learned how to dress my pear shape and have played around a lot with different styles. Which brings me to my new bf.
My current bf loves my shape and literally told me if he needs to breathe he will tap my leg but until then he’s fine.
I’m aware that some comedian said it first so idk if he is being serious or not. I mean he is great down there and acts like I’m his last meal but I’m afraid I’m going to either suffocate him or crush his head.
I know he could pick me up if he needed to he likes to pick me up and move me around or just throw me for fun but still the worry is there.
Also what am I supposed to do while sitting on him? Do I play with his dick? Can I ask for him to take his pants off so I can play with him ( he never takes his pants off until he has thoroughly pulled a few orgasms from me and I’m to shakey and sensitive to let him keep going).
My ex was my first and he never went down on me so I feel like I’m supposed to do something but idk what.
Edit i ask what I should do during because previously during foreplay he’s stopped me from a bj saying he was too close and didn’t want the fun to end. Since then it has been kind of either he’s down for me to touch it or its a no go unless he specifically doesn’t want to have sex and just wants to play.
So idk if the same would apply here or if that’s something that will also make him too close. I guess I could ask but he’s at work so …….
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Enjoy him and explore whatever you want. He probably likes making you climax so let him be.
Sounds like you’re both enjoying it so I don’t think you need to do anything different
Dude just seems to love eating pussy. Let him. The more you enjoy it the more he’s gonna enjoy it.
No, you can’t ask him to take his pants off so you can play with his dick. What kind of terrible sexual partner would do such a thing?
Lol jk. Yeah dude go for it!
All you can do is take him at his word here. My wife is a lot bigger than she was when we got married, but I find lots of ways to make room down there, I like putting her on her back legs closed and kinda pushing her lower belly/pubic bone/upper vulva area up to pull her clit up so I can reach it even when her legs are totally closed.
She doesn’t sit on my face though, so you’re on your own navigating that one lol
Upvoting for the use of ‘donk’ and ‘his last meal’ Love it 😆
69, if he’s too close play with his balls, tug his hair
1. Marry him
2. I assure you he will tap your leg when (if) he needs air
Men do enjoy this, it’s normal, and safe. On the off chance he dies doing this, he died a hero’s death and goes straight to Valhalla.
Well firstly, don’t be scared if you do suffocate him, it’s be the best way to die, seriously.
Secondly maybe just keep talking to him while he’s eating you out, rub your hands over his body and gently touch his dick every so often!!
Have FUN!!
The way i read this is you want reciprocate the pleasure he gives you, and that he may be worried about cumming too early?
One way to give back is to play with other areas that will feel good but not make him ejaculate with intermittent moments of playing with his dick.
You could also show gratitude by making him the sole focus. Tell him you cant have sex for the night( come up with your own excuse) and give him the best bj you know how.
My 2 cents 🤷♂️ hope it helps 😁
Run your fingers through his hair and maybe pull him into you a little bit. He clearly loves this sub position and I think(as a similarly minded man) that he would go crazy over it. You’re not going to crush his head, but I would maybe suggest trying not to put all your weight on his jaw. That can really hurt! Have fun!
Edit: typo
When I am eating out my gf I get stupidly turned on to the point that I cum pretty quick after. I understand when he says he doesn’t want extra touching during eating you out that might make him finish even faster. To get around that sometimes my gf will just give me a blowjob first and then we both get really turned on when I go down on her and have better sex after.
Don’t worry about killing him. He probably knows how to alternate nose and mouth breathing as needed. We all can do it in our sleep but hopefully he is awake while you’re riding his face haha. If you feel weird not knowing what to do up there just hold his head and or hair and see if he likes that. Having my gf grab on and pull herself down onto me is hot as hell.
If he doesn’t want a bj first or for you to grab his head then just keep enjoying yourself!
Ah the eternal question of, “what do I do with my hands?”
My opinion is offer variety. You should definitely take turns in a non-transactional way so you can each focus on receiving pleasure. You might also occasionally 69. Occasionally play with his junk until you think he’s getting close and then just stop, keeping him trapped. You can also have him take his pants off so you can see if and when he gets hard while he’s working.
And also, talk to him. If he doesn’t want you to touch him, ok. But you want his pants off, and you want to say things to him. Eventually you will be inside his head and you’ll be giving him what he wants to hear. I suspect he might enjoy losing a little power while he’s under you. Your words can amplify this. Just… Learn what he likes and where his boundaries are, especially when it comes to words.
sit down and enjoy. oral pleasure is for you. I love giving my wife oral and dotn ever expect her to do anything other than enjoy
For most people, the whole joy of oral sex is that one person happily gives, the other happily receives. (69ing never works well in practice, no shame to those who enjoy it, but it’s not for everyone).
Let him give unto you. Just make sure you communicate (verbally, non-verbally) what you like or don’t.
Just enjoy it! The dude will absolutely let you know if somethings wrong. You could play with your breasts, grab his hair, grab a hand (keep one free so he can tap out!), or just let your mind run wild
I’ve told me gf if I die while she’s sitting on my face that she needs to know that I died a good death and died happy. This guy probably has a similar mindset.
More seriously, he’s not gonna pass out before being able to tap you and if he did somehow pass out (I think for this to happen you’d have to be cutting off the circulation in his neck), you’d realize something was up before killing him.
Just because someone wants you to stay within the same weight class as when you met doesn’t make them a jerk. 190 at that height is obese to the point where it negatively affects your health. Would you wanna stay with someone who was using heroin and had no intention of stopping?
Swing your hips back and forth if you like, push his head into you, experiment with lowering and raising yourself, drag your fingers across his bare skin, or just shout hallelujah! Basically there are no expectations for you to do anything, experiment and find out what you like and what he likes. Some people don’t want you playing with their junk while pleasuring you, because it takes their focus off your enjoyment! So don’t be too worried about needing to reciprocate. He will get his turn.
That’s the age gap my wife and I have, though we are older. She has had similar weight gain to what you describe since we met almost 17 years ago. I’ve never felt put off by her body. She recently lost about 30 pounds because she wanted to. I’ve been supportive of her, but I also have told her time and again that I love her, I love sex with her, and that I don’t really want to have big opinions about her body, except that I’ve never stopped loving her body. She’s given birth to our 2 daughters, and I love to view her stretch marks as battle scars she has earned by making a family with me. Every sign of age on her body marks a significant time of growth and learning and togetherness to me.
She’s been feeling a bit self conscious about her appearance lately and that’s what prompted her to focus on losing weight, but I’ve been encouraging her to really just love herself. Even if she continues to lose weight and seek out new clothes and stuff or if she doesn’t, to just know that no matter what she’s always going to be beatiful to me. I want her to really know deep down that the sexiest thing she can show me is confidence and love for herself. Sounds like you have a good person there that wants to love you and take care of you. And you sound like you want to do the same for him. That’s a great combination! I wish you well!!!
For me. I cum too quick a lot of the time. So I’ve made sure that my pussy eating ability is top notch. I really do enjoy eating pussy and I always make sure they get off a time or two before I have stuff done to me. So maybe that’s it for him? Sit on his face he’ll love it.
My boyfriend loves eating me out too , it is pretty normal and you don’t have to do anything . If your sat on his face and want to pleasure him too you can always ask to go into 69 or to play with him while your sat on his face . It depends what positions you prefer as a couple . Honestly , it sounds like everything is great for you both . If you feel like it’s one sided and your not physically pleasuring him enough you can always ask to reciprocate if your both into that .
Sometimes, it’s just amazing that we find people who truly loves us for who we are. I am also a bit overweight and I hate it when my boyfriend fondles with my flabs so I tell him I’m always insecure about them (in my early 20s, I used to do modelling as a hobby and had a killer figure – so that’s where my insecurity comes from)
They other day, a slip out of tongue confession that he really likes curvy women and that’s his fave porn tag before (lol okay)
So I’m pretty sure whatever he does, he’s just enjoying himself. Do not overthink too much. It seems like he is also pretty open with you so he’s probably a keeper.
Thick thighs save lives always tell my partner this