This guy I’ve (22F) been texting (23M) is coming into town to visit (I invited him to come but he’ll be visiting his friends as well). We went out and hooked up once before he moved for grad school and have been texting since then. The texts aren’t flirty or anything but he’ll send me pics of like his dogs/what he’s up to at work (almost like you would a girlfriend) and they’ve been consistent for like 3 months. As a guy, would you keep in contact with a hook up for this long unless you had intentions of asking them out? I don’t want to put too much pressure on it but I’m honestly curious because I’m so used to getting ghosted.
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Oh… I don’t think he’s trying to ask you out.
I think he’s trying to pick up where you guys left off.
Unless he’s coming back to visit you specifically, I don’t see it as he’s interested in something official. If he’s just back in town to see his family, then perhaps y’all can enjoy time together.
Not particularly flirty = he knows he has the upper hand. When you have to convince a woman you’re into her you make sure she knows. There’ll be no guess work.
My question for you is are you interested in more with this guy?
If a guy wants you and is serious about dating you, it’s very clear.
I used to keep in contact with multiple fwb at one time. It wasn’t about flirting with them, it was just checking in often enough for the sake of future plans. The way I thought about it then, “you have to pre book her time so she has you on her calendar later”
I was 24-25 at the time