So I (29 F) hooked up with this guy (26 M) a few months back at a conference. We both knew it was a one time thing and we both live in different cities so ofcourse nothing would have worked out anyway but we did exchange our numbers and instagram handle. We kept on a talking for a while, not deep conversations per say but there was some form of exchange almost everyday. It was mostly funny memes and banter with a mix of sexual puns. About a month an a half into it, i decided to ask him why he kept talking to me because I didn’t want to get emotionally attached with someone who probably doesn’t feel that way.
Although the response was not what I would have liked, I thought that would be the end of it and stop taking up my mental space. But this guy kept sending me memes everyday and would try to initiate conversation. Although I would like whatever he shared, I tried to avoid a proper conversation. The other day he drunk texted me and I engaged in a conversation with him. The next day he apologized for his messages and I ofcourse gave out a chill attitude which is expected out of you in situations like this.
It’s been 2 days and we haven’t spoken since. I don’t understand men. What am I supposed to make out of it? Is this how breadcrumbing works? Could use a guys opinion.
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You’ve hooked up with him just once months ago? just be upfront and stop wasting your time an emotional investment. It’s simple, just send something like, “Hey I want to see if things are going anywhere, are you texting me just to text me or do you actually want to hang out again?” You don’t have to be that blunt but you need to get that point across. Please don’t keep putting yourself through this limbo shit
Also what did he respond with when you asked him why he kept taking to you a month and a half ago