At the time we met, we were both interested in eachother, but she already had a relationship with another man. I told her it didn’t bother me, because at the time I had a girlfriend, which was also her best friend (20F). After she broke with him, my best friend (18M) asked her out. She said no. After a few weeks my girlfriend broke up with me, so we had each other to rely on. Eventually this led to a secret FWB. Now we would like to have relationship and make it public. I deeply love her and truly believe she is the love of my life. I have talked to my best friend about it, and he says it doesn’t bother him. I don’t believe him, because he has been distancing himself from us. I don’t want to lose him, we have been best friends since kindergarten and we have been through alot together, but it seems as if there is no other option. She hasn’t talked about it to my ex, and she isn’t sure how to. I hope y’all can help us with this situation.
TL;DR
Me and my FWB want to have a serious relationship with eachother, but we don’t want to lose out friends. Her best friend is my ex, and my best friend got rejected by my FWB. We don’t want to lose them for the sake of our relationship.
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3 comments
Gonna be honest if she’s the right one, close friends from teen years can come and go.
Get together and sort it out afterwards. Not losing your friends is more about how you handle it after than anything you can do before, but lets be real if you two have a serious connection with each other and your friends dip out of jealousy, the friendships had a time limit on them no matter what yall did.
Go for it. Do it now while you’re still young rather than old with regrets
Just date, and let you friend know it’s coming. Maybe take him to a movie or buy him some lunch or something