Hey guys Ik I could be honestly overthinking this, but I have a simple question. I honestly suck at telling people’a interested through social media but here is the story. I dmed a girl a day ago asking a question about her where she’s from and if she’s from the country I stay at and she responded in one word response and took less than 12 hrs. She was more than 2.5K followers and obv we don’t know each other. Do y’all think she has a slight interest and wants me to keep the convo going or should I just let her be? Like I said I can’t tell peoples emotions through insta or snap I usually talk to girls more irl than social media. I also I do want to mention she is in a different country.
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People specially girls are more cautious with social media interactions, they know if a random guy dm it’s not to just be friends lol. But yeah I would keep interacting, keeping it cool and calm, it takes some time for them to realize you aren’t just a creep. If she has that many followers maybe she gets many daily messages. If she doesn’t answer ever again then let it be and move on.
The more anxious you are about other people and the more you care so much about other people in terms of receiving their attention, time, reassurance, approval, validation either online/offline, the more needy and desperate you will become for them and the less likely people will reciprocate and associate with you. People notice the way you act and carry yourself around them. They can sense your anxious vibes. They know when you are overly attached to them and heavily dependent upon them for online/offline attention. Your actions tend to show it. The tell tale signs are you texting/calling them way more than they are to you, and you being anxious, emotionally reacting, and confronting them when they don’t give you attention, time, reassurance, approval, validation either online/offline for whatever reason. People are hardwired to be repulsed by neediness and desperation. They gravitate towards somebody who is self confident, brings positive vibes in conversations, and is well rounded enough in life to not depend on others.
You need to become genuinely busy in your life focusing on your hobbies and goals, while interacting with other people on the side in real life. Find something you enjoy doing in life and keep doing that overtime. You will build much needed self esteem and self confidence. Chase excellence, not people.