So I M21 have recently started working with this girl my age. She seems somewhat interested at work but I keep it pretty casual. A few days ago I got her snap and we have been snapping progressively more and more over the past days. Most of her snaps are within an hour and are usually selfies/kissing faces if that means anything. I just have no idea how to properly express my interest without coming off as creepy if she’s not interested in me. Any help is very much appreciated!
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Be really really attractive physically and be rich
I would just straight up tell her. You’ll save yourself a lot of time and mental calories wondering
Just say, ngl im starting to like you
As long as you keep viewing yourself as creepy, you will end up acting that way. People will notice and feel that vibe coming from you. People notice the way you carry yourself and the vibes you give off. When you are nervous/anxious/overthinking/worrying about who you are and what you are, your verbal and nonverbal actions tend to show it. If you keep acting this way, people will stop associating with you because it’s a negative vibe. You are essentially conveying that you are indeed unworthy to hold a conversation with them or be around them and that they need to be constantly reassuring you. That’s not what you want to convey, and it’s nobody else’s job but your own to validate and reassure yourself. People gravitate towards self confidence, not anxiety.
Now to answer your question. Stop putting her on a pedestal. You need to show that by words and actions. Genuinely connect with her as you would with other people in real life e.g. ask how they are, their hobbies, interests, goals, opinions, etc. Listen and pay attention to what people say. Share those things about yourself when asked. People also subconsciously attach you to the value you bring. The value you bring is a clear, unique, and convincing reason why people will interact with you, let alone do so constantly. So Find ways to add value to their lives. Having In person interactions is the easiest way to stand out from countless people who text or message. People remember and favor in person interactions because of the positive vibes. If your hobbies, skills, talents align with their interests or can help them, bring it up and offer to help them. Finally, learn how to be genuinely busy in your life pursuing your goals and hobbies, while interacting with people on the side. People are hardwired to be repulsed by neediness and desperation and instead gravitate towards those who are self confident and well rounded in life. They want to see active confirmation of you actually doing something in your life other than just talking to them. So chase excellence, not people.
You have already shown your interest by asking for her Snapchat and talking to her daily which she is reciprocating. Next step is asking her to hangout after a shift
You do the ✌️and then 👅 hand signal