What was the moment you knew you wanted to move forward and take your relationship to the next level?

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1. It’s usually just random. Lick a click in my brain. Never had a ons/fwb/hookup. Only relationships. And, when I meet someone I want, it just kind of is a for sure thing that I want it.

2. When you start making more plans with that person than without them is usually the tipping point.

3. It’s probably going to be different with everybody.

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   I can tell you the exact point that I knew that I wanted this girl in my life. It felt like an epiphany, where I suddenly realized with crystal clear clarity that I *loved* this one. Not just liked, as I had been kidding myself.

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   It happened in a few seconds, but time slowed down to a stop and it felt like an eternity. It was simultaneously the most ecstatic realization I’d ever had, as well as the most frightening. Because our relationship becoming serious was still highly in doubt.

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   I’m sure every guy has a similar story.

4. >Like what motivated you to ask your partner to be your girlfriend/boyfriend/official

   Well I like her in the first place if I’m going on more than a single date because I thought she was hot, and we continue to get along well and our physical and interpersonal intimacy increase.

   Call it inertia. Call it the trajectory of our interactions arcing successfully. It’s not some spur of the moment decision brought on by a fit of pique, it is the natural result of our interactions and chemistry.

   Wanting to be a couple or date exclusively or be boyfriend-girlfriend level partners is not super complex.