I (F22) hooked up a guy (M23) recently and the sex was one of the best I think I’ve ever had. We did so many positions and all under a Malibu sunset which was pretty ethereal. He texted a couple days ago and was saying how it was the best doggy of his life and he wants to hang out again which was pretty hot to me at first. But since then he’s just kept going on and on about how much he wants to fuck me- specifically in doggy and how great the doggy was and so on. And for whatever reason I’m almost at the point where it’s making me a little insecure.
I’m not sure if its just a woman’s perspective or I’m just more intimate, but because he keeps emphasizing this one position instead of how good the sex was as a whole- it kind of feels like he cares more about staring at my ass than at my face or any other part of me. Doggy may just be his absolute favorite or maybe it just felt really good in particular, but ever since he’s chosen to keep emphasizing this one particular part, it kind of makes me feel like the rest of the sex just wasn’t as exciting as it was to me.
This is nothing serious but I have a hard time getting off knowing a man only likes my body but not my face. Do you think this is the case or am I just reading too far into it?
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reading too far into it… he’s likely fantasizing over that position bc it was that spectacular
Did he ever say that he doesn’t like your face? I think you’re reading too much into it. That said, it can be a bit too much to talk about one position all the time.
From my own experiences as a man, it’s quite typical for me to experience moments of intense euphoria and connection during sex when the intimate, the erotic, the sensual and the visual all come together for a few perfect moments. I can totally relate to his experience of doggy Nirvana, and how much he might have realized he liked you in that moment.
I know that to express myself the way he is expressing himself would be as off putting to most women as it is for you, and many are always looking for evidence that a man is only interested in them for sex even if that’s not the case. So I have often self censored because it’s not the kind of emotion that many women can relate to, so I only expressed the ones that would be palatable and couldn’t possibly be misconstrued as objectifying.
Then I met a woman who just got me and accepted that I experience things differently to her. So I don’t have to proof read and edit my own romantic emotions before expressing them any more. Maybe you could give him the benefit of the doubt and take it as a compliment?
That would piss me off too. I do kind of wish that (more) men had the experience of someone wanting to turn them around so they can’t see your face and you can see nothing at all during a super vulnerable moment just to empathize; it took me a long time to not feel rejected during doggy. In the same way the guys are saying “it’s a man thing” I think there should be some empathy for the “woman thing.”
Maybe next time he mentions it say “yes, and what else?”
This is why I tell men to shut the hell up! We talk ourselves out of good things all the time!
Is he relatively new to sex? Because it could almost sounds like it. As he is being obsessed with it because it felt could and was beautiful like he’s discovering it.
I’m speaking of experience because I was kinda like that with the breasts of a partner. In the end it bored her do she “punished me” by not showing them for a couple of sex sessions.
You could also try like that, by being a little assertive, saying ” no more doggy until [what you’d like]”.
He blatantly only wants sex. If that’s OK for you – hooray. If not, ditch his ass (extra irony because the doggy – geddit?)
It’s FWB not a relationship so yes he’s not here for your personality but your ass