Hi folks. So I’m finding myself having a very low and fluctuating libido, especially ever since I’ve been on the pill. I never masturbate or used to much before my boyfriend (maybe once every 3 months at best). I want to be able to be more interested and motivated for my partner, is there any ways to help me get the gears grinding and be “excited”? I’m not really sure what “turns me on” to help me get in the mood. It just feels so on and off for me.
We make out and foreplay for sex each time also. Sometimes I have to remind myself just how good sex feels with him to try and convince me, but I wish it would be much easier than that. Communication isn’t an issue also, we speak openly about sex (hence why I’m making this post). He’s very good to me and in bed and I would like to be as present with him just as much as he is with me. I don’t want to be something straight out of r/BoredandIgnored hehe (because I’m not bored, I’m just not getting horny…).
Also I have unprotected sex with my boyfriend so being off the pill is not an option.
Ty for any suggestions!~
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it seemed like my body and turn ons had changed over time and i lost a feeling of connectedness with my own body and sensation. it caused a lot of anxiety surrounding sex and i never felt horny until halfway through reluctant sex i would suddenly start enjoying it again and i would get really into it and regret waiting so long
we actually had to start scheduling our intimacy to start having a pre-determined sexytime caused a build up of anticipation, and from there i was able to start experimenting with dirty texts and foreplay to figure out exactly what i was into
turns out i reallyreally*really* enjoy being teased and then denied for a while before actually having sex. i’m also a masochist so we experimented with different types of sensation and impact play and the sex kept getting spicier as my partner became more practiced in his aim
turns out having more frequent sex helped him develop his techniques and subtle knowledge of my erogenous zones, therefore making the sex better…which resulted in an increased appetite on my part (shocked pikachu face)