I might be getting upset too much but basically all of my coworkers are going zip lining on Saturday and they’re talking about it when I’m right there but aren’t inviting me. It’s their prerogative to not invite me but do they have to talk about it in a conversation that I’m in when I’m not invited? It’s not like I’m walking by and I overhear them talking about it, it’s like I’m in a conversation with all of them and we’re talking about something else and then they start talking about it.
I get that I’m not the best at socializing/conversations and maybe that’s why I’m not invited but it hurts and makes me not want to keep trying to get better at socializing when it’s clearly not enough for people to want to hang out with me.
Edit: I have not asked to be invited, I feel like it might be inappropriate for me to do that
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Personally I’d never ask to be invited. If they wanted you to go, they’d ask if you were free to go. I mean why not, they are talking about it right in front of you?
Is zip lining an activity you would enjoy? If so I would say something like “Oh wow! I would love to try that!”
It’s okay to hint heavily because they really shouldn’t be discussing it in front of you if they don’t want you to come. They are probably neutral on you coming and might invite you.
If zip lining is not an activity you would like to try, count yourself lucky lol.
You can get better at socializing!!! This isn’t a personality trait but a skill set that you need to develop. The reason they are treating you that way is because you have let them over the course of time of being quiet. And it brothers you as it should. It’s rude for them to talk about plans to your face without inviting you. It’s ok to call them out on it if you feel comfortable to do so.
But in general, you should work on your social skills because this will keep happening even in environments where you are like minded. So I would go see a counselor about how to improve my skills.