I (30M) have been with my now wife (29F) for over 7 years. We have sex about once or twice a week. But when we don’t have sex for whatever reason (too tired, guests somewhere etc.) and she just wants a quick cuddle or make out session, I get hard and want to have sex. Really anytime we’re laying together skin to skin I get hard.
Do I have control issues here? What’s the deal?
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That’s natural and nobody should shame you for it.
I can’t speak for others but I would say it’s normal. As a M35 I always get the honest when cuddling my with and the last time I didn’t desperately want sex while making out was when I was still a Virgin.
Same, man. Frustrating for my girl at times, but hey, the body wants what the body wants.
This is ABSOLUTELY normal. Your body is being stimulated and it (for lack of a better word) overrides your mind
Nothing wrong with it. Sometimes making out is enough for me.
Natural. I’m 31 and been married for almost 11 years and this is still the normal for me. Happened last night actually.
I am right there with you. Been with my SO for a decade & I am pushing 50. I might be an ass for saying this but make-out + no sex = not worth it. It can boarder on frustrating. Unless you are a teen & that’s all you can get, I don’t like being in a position where I want to nut but can’t.
Making out is like a 30 year old Honda accord. Nothing wrong with it. It’s a great 1st car. It’s also great when you haven’t had a car in a while so you are thrilled not to have to ride the bus. But if you have a Lamborghini in the garage, the hell with the old Honda. 
Making out with your wife makes you want to have sex?
What’s the issue here lol
Ikr I’m the same
As long as the desires line up I don’t see a problem here
My partner strokes my hair and I’m game 😂
Definitely nothing wrong with you OP!
Rub one out in the bathroom
Those are foreplay for a reason. Totally normal.
I feel like it’s normal to want it- just know when not to act on it. Just because you want it doesn’t mean you should always take it that far. Sometimes it’s nice just to cuddle. Especially when tired or stressed.
Same here. So we wouldn’t full on make out unless we were going to fuck but we would fuck almost everyday multiple times so it wasn’t really an issue.
Completely normal. If she doesn’t want sex, either rub one out or just go to sleep.
I’m on the opposite end of this spectrum. As a woman, I’m the one who can’t make out without getting really horny every time. We also don’t make out a lot- and any time we do, it’s probably because we’re about to have sex and feels kind of inorganic as a result of me always dying to make out or have sex. I think I’ve kind of desensitized my boyfriend. I personally get really upset when I think about this and I think I just need to be with somebody whose sexual desires line up with mine more effectively. Maybe you’re the same way!! Maybe you can try talking to your partner or doing things that turn her on before making out with her. Give silent subliminal hints.
Personally this is normal behaviour… I mean if its the only thing ever going through your head it’s still not exactly a problem… last time I checked being a good couple and finding her sexy enough to warrant a physical response like that very very much a good thing, especially if they tease you with it…
That’s…normal. Is she shaming you for it or is it something you made up in your head?
I don’t see any issue here. Totally normal.😁
Every single married couple you know makes out to have sex
I’m a woman and become aroused from being close to my love. It’s normal if you’re a very sexual person
it’s completely normal! ☺️
Hopefully she’s not complaining. That you are still super attracted to your partner, sexually, after 7 years and hopefully many more is something I hope she won’t ever take for granted. Your body is telling you “yup, I still work” 💪🏾
I’ll make out with my husband and we’ll both get horny. He shoes me what I’ve done to him and if we’re not going anywhere we take care of it.
Although I do enjoy getting him worked up before we have to go somewhere so he’s horny till we get home 😈
You’re still in love with your wife!
I mean, i always want to have sex after making out with my guy, unless we just had sex…. Seems pretty normal.
It’s natural man , now if you didn’t get a chub it might be an issue and worth looking into. Can’t expect not to get a chub while a stimulating zone is being touched
Do you guys ever touch/flirt/cuddle/kiss and have it NOT lead to sex? It’s good and healthy to be able to kiss and cuddle and stuff without it always leading to sex. Could be good to practice and then (assuming you don’t walkways want for it to lead to sex), over time you can do those things without getting horny. Got this info from Vanessa Marin – a popular sex therapist 🙂
Is the issue just that your very annoyed by it?
That’s totally normal. inconvenient, but normal.
You might want to talk with your wife and make an agreement about how often you have sex. Everybody wants it to be just the right frequency totally spontaneously, and that’s something you need to kiss goodbye along with the Easter Bunny and Santa Claus. In real life you pretty much have to schedule it.
You should never control your urges she your wife you love her and she loves you so fuck the shit out
Of each other go wild
Congratulations, you’re a man, welcome to the club😂
I would say it’s perfectly normal, and it’s always nice to know that your partner is sensitive to your slightest touch.
But from a girl’s perspective, it’s also nice to just make out sometimes without it leading to sex. Just cuddle and have a sloppy make out session without having to worry about anything else.
At least I have an idea of what’s ahead for most of us. Why does marriage lower the sex?