So I met someone in class a few months ago that I really wanted to become friends with and I made the effort to do so. He reacted very positively to all of my invitations but most of the time our plans were cancelled because he said he was busy. I felt like I was the only one initiating conversations and following up on things. Anyway, so we were on the same plane on our way back (which I wouldn’t have known would be the case if he didn’t send a text saying it’d be fun to fly together if we were on the same flight) and after the flight I ask him if he made it home since he had a subsequent flight that he could have missed. He texted back saying that he had to run across the airport, had a lot of fun with me (which didn’t feel that way when we were together) and thanked me for helping him out. Then I replied saying have a great summer and he said “You too! Let’s keep in touch!” Finally I just replied “Sure!” and that’s basically it. We haven’t talked after that. I’m not sure if he was being genuine or just polite.
Should I text him when we go back to school or just wait to see if he’ll remember me and reach out? Am I overthinking?
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I have been in similar situations. In these kinds of situations, you have 2 options: 1) Keep on initiating interactions 2) Give up and wait for them. I chose the 2nd option one time and it lasted almost 2 years with nothing. I realize not all social interactions are equal; one wants to talk more than the other and there isn’t necessarily anything wrong with that as long you are ok with that. I regretted that choice and reached out to him again and we had a great time catching up. That’s just how it is sometimes.