i have to go back to school in less than a month. last school year i had very bad social anxiety. i couldnt seem to keep any “friends” because i wasnt able to talk often.
this year i’m gonna look for a new set of them. or be able to be friends with atleast one person each period. and also have atleast one person to sit at lunch with.
but i can’t start a conversation for shit. usually i just compliment them and hope it does something but it usually goes nowhere.
any advice? tips? thank you
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I am assuming you struggle to strike up a conversation because you try too hard to think of the most specific and “best” way to find a topic. Let that go and say anything random, whether it’s someone’s outfit, a random object that reminded you of something, or anything else. Say it, any words that are being said can have a follow up.
If you see someone wearing shoes you find nice, don’t just compliment it and call it over. Although it is a step to make friends since people will feel more comfortable are happier with you that you complimented them, it still will not guarantee a conversation. Ask them where they get it from, tell them your experience with those shoes, tell them your genuine opinion of those shoes from any aspect.
And if you do that and people still don’t say anything, then it’s okay. It’s not you, sometimes people don’t know what else to say for whatever reason. Everyone is different and that’s why it’s best to practice this with multiple people.