Workplace Romance – it’s not a yes, but it’s not a no.

I WANT TO KNOW IF HE LIKES ME TOO

My work colleague (M 29) and I (F 24) are pretty good friends. We don’t work together because we aren’t in the same department but we work in the same office. We often visit each other’s desk for a chat and even show each other some of the interesting things we’re doing and we’re proud of. We talk to each other about our dating lives and often give each other advice.

Recently we’ve started to talk all the time. We’re constantly texting in and outside of work and now we’ve started gyming together. We even said we might go together to get tattoos (don’t worry, not matching ones!) I think it’s quite obvious that we’ve started flirting with each other more and more.

One day I told him that I “used to have a crush” on him and we joked about it but lately we joke more about us hooking up and being together. I’m pretty sure he knows I like him but he mentions that because we work together it’s not a good move (he’s speaking from experience).

Last night at the gym we were chatting after the workout and he mentioned that he might leave the company but isn’t sure. I ‘jokingly’ said, “so if you leave, then can we date?” And he shrugged and pulled a smirk, and said, “I’m not saying yes but I’m not saying no”. I wasn’t joking and I think he might know that.

So it’s actually a lot of progress and our friendship over the past few months has grown a lot! But I want to know if I actually have a shot with him. Both of us are pretty emotionally mature and could deal with it I’m sure. I’ve heard all the ways workplace romances fail but I’ve also heard how some don’t. I think between us, it’s not like only sexual attraction. We don’t just want to have sex, there’s a lot more there and I think that is what makes it a little different to a typical awkward office fuck buddy.

I don’t want advice on whether or not this is a good idea but want to know if he could actually like me too or I’m just overthinking.