Is it me or my date really taking things way too slow? What can I do to encourage her to open up

I live in Europe (Germany) and I am not originally from here. But I feel things are going very slow between this girl and me. We both are around 27.

Let’s say, I started talking to her on the 1st of the month.

Eventually, we had our first date on the 10th. It was very normal. Walking and the usual stuff. We spent several hours together.

I tried to schedule another date soon. But she decided to wait another week for the second date and we met on the 17th. It was a day off for me and a work day for her. I preferred to meet her on her day off but she made excuse and opt for the 17th instead. So we met before work. She was like 30 minutes late and we only spent 1-1.5 hours together since she had to leave for work.

She is a very nice person in general. I think we are both looking for a long-term relationship. But she is not very affectionate. There was no kissing or flirting. Only a hug on the second date. That’s all.

She is also a terrible texter. Not blaming her, but she takes like 2-4 hours on average to respond even if it’s evening / after work hours. You can’t have normal conversations at this pace.

Now we are planning a 3rd date. It sounds like it will be on 24th and probably a short meeting (her choice, not my)

I feel like things are going way too slow. On top of that, I can’t tell if she even likes me. Maybe she is talking to other people too (I am not anymore because I started feeling guilty talking to other people). It’s making me nervous. I want to give her time but I don’t want to waste so much time on someone who doesn’t feel the same way about me or is an emotionally unavailable or unaffectionate person.

**What should I do? I feel she is taking things way too slow. Am I over-thinking or it’s true?**

I am thinking of talking to her about this and asking her what’s in her mind. But I’m worried I may come across as too intense or needy.