I’m a very awkward person and I don’t have any female friends (I don’t have many friends in general especially not female ones) and would honestly like to make some. I’m really not the best at starting conversations. There is this girl I’ve followed for quite some time on social media (Twitter and Tik Tok) she seems very nice and we seemingly basically have the same music taste. I’ve never really been the type to but I don’t just wanna slide in her DMS and come across odd or like I want to bang her. Help
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You dont.
just be friendly and be like anyone else who just wanna be friends would. that’s pretty much it. no advances, no creepy comments.
Stop putting girls on a pedestal. Genuinely connect with them as you would with other people in real life e.g. ask how they are, their hobbies, interests, goals, opinions, etc. Listen and pay attention to what people say. Share those things about yourself when asked. People also subconsciously attach you to the value you bring. The value you bring is a clear, unique, and convincing reason why people will interact with you, let alone do so constantly. So Find ways to add value to their lives. Having In person interactions is the easiest way to stand out from countless people who text or message. People remember and favor in person interactions because of the positive vibes. If your hobbies, skills, talents align with their interests or can help them, bring it up and offer to help them. Finally, learn how to be genuinely busy in your life pursuing your goals and hobbies, while interacting with people on the side. People are hardwired to be repulsed by neediness and desperation and instead gravitate towards those who are self confident and well rounded in life. They want to see active confirmation of you actually doing something in your life other than just talking to them. So chase excellence, not people.