How to stop lying a lot

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1. Choosing silence is the easiest and most accessable way.

   The sustainable way is figuring out the relationship of values/virtues to aims. Then aims’ relationship with one’s sense of meaning. Meaning’s relationship with one’s sense of purpose.

   Alternatively, just trust me when I say [truth and responsibility are the secret to a meaningful life and without the meaningful life all you have is the suffering](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fctu7rd4n-Y).

2. I know this sounds trite but have you thought about therapy? As you’ve mentioned these issues tend to run pretty deep and tackling them via will power alone won’t work long term.

3. If people ask you a question and your first instinct is to lie, try to be more vague with the answer, that’s a good first step. Changing the topic can also work

4. Damn so now you’re causing them to have trust issues too lmao

5. Go ask yourself lmao.

6. Start being honest with yourself, your inner dialogues

7. You dont need to lie to maintain self preservation. It is not rude to just say “im not talking about that” or something along those lines.
   Choosing words wisely takes practice.

   I had this problem when i was a kid. A counselor got me to write a letter to myself and try to list the lies i told, why i thought i needed to lie and then write what the truth actually was for that lie.

   You literally have to unlearn the knee jerk reaction to lie. Re carve neuro pathways. Takes practice but with due diligence you can ditch the habit and maintain self preservation and or anonymity where n when you need to.

8. Which mean you can’t be trusted as well.

9. Stop being fearfull, nothing terrible will happen, confront people when needed (do not lie to escape/avoid/delay the situation) and just let the truth flow.

10. I had a bad habit of lying too. It wasn’t until someone close to me caught me in a really bad lie and called me out on it and almost cut me out of their life. I needed some consequence to my lying for me to actively make a change. Hoping that won’t happen to you, but being conscious of when you’re about to tell a lie is the first step. And also realizing most people really respect when the truth is told helps too.

    Edit: spelling

11. Go see a therapist. They can help you work out why you lie and in which situations this happens and how to deal with it