Warning: Long post
So I met this man on hinge 4months ago. He was super sweet, a gentleman and a good cook. He always made me laugh even though he teased me. Basically everything I wanted in a man. Unfortunately, there was one passion that I was worried about. Him being an atheist and I a Christian
For month it didn’t bother me too much because a lot of things were just naturally falling to place. Even my prayers were getting answered in the physical realm. I remembered me thinking we weren’t gonna be together because of this and was so sad but eventually pulled through.
But, of course, my doubts about whether we were connecting got in the way. I was also afraid of being like my mom. She was a Christian woman who married a non believer (who became Christian later) who turned into a narcissist she won’t leave. I also feel like I didn’t appreciate him enough. I’m just a screw up. He broke up with me thinking our differences were too much and it wasn’t my fault, but I said that it was equally (if not more so) mine.
We texted a little last week, but I heard that if I wanted him back I needed to wait for month no contact and focus on my growth. I went back on hinge, watched videos about healing, and tried to find my own community of friends. Yet, I really miss him. Love and wish we could start again. I’m just afraid I messed up a great opportunity to be with the one.
Guess what I’m asking is what do I do? I really want some hope to get him back. Sorry if I offended anyone.
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Well… what are those differences? Is it just religion beliefs? I would respect his wish of no communications for a month. I would also use this time to work on yourself. What do you really want? Did you put yourself in this relationship knowing it would end from the start? If so, you don’t want to repeat this mistake in the future. Get to know yourself better and if you still want him next month, GO FOR IT. There is hope. I mean he didn’t say it’s over so it’s not. Struggles happen. If you really want him, communicate how you feel ( after the one month ) . Tell him to focus on what you have in common instead of differences. You can both make compromises to be together and be happy. You are yourself and everyone is different so no, you are not your mother. Good luck out there!