So me (28f) and my BF (26m) have been together for about 10 months now, and things have been good but I can’t get over the little things he says and does..
Like for instance we will be out and I can catch him looking multiple times at a girl or two he sees out… and I think it’s rude. I’m not ugly, his friends ask him how he even got me but it still hurts my feelings.
He is always saying little things too that kinda gets like “ do you think your going yo try to get back to how you was 2 years ago?” Talking about working out, like I’m only 5 pounds heavier than when I was working out and still have my abs.
Him on the other hand has lost all the muscle he had when we first started dating but I would never say anything or make him feel bad, or he will be like “wow your so pale, when are you going to get a tan?”
He has never been able to keep a GF and now I can see why.
I was just at dinner and he was saying to a friend how another one of his friends was saying how crazy he was for turning down a job offer where he would’ve made six digits a year, (he turned it down so we wouldn’t be apart for coupe months at a time). And he was saying “my friend was telling me how crazy I am for turning that job down, I said I did it for my girl and he’s like ‘your crazy forget her you can get any girl you want with that money’”. I never once told him not to take that job or ever hinted.
I think I’m just losing my feelings for him at this point…
TL;DR boyfriend is always making jabs at my appearance and makes me question myself
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I certainly don’t need to tell you anything, You already know what needs to be done. SO GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER AND PUT THE HAMMER DOWN, I’m just saying
So you are mad at him for turning down a six figure job (as you should), but then you also get mad when he tells you to get in shape. To be honest, I think he is in the right here other than turning down the job which obviously is dumb af here. If you freak out that much about him looking at a girl then honestly you sound like the crazy one.
Just be straight up with him. Let him know he is hurting your feelings. See what his response is.
This is EXACTLY WHAT I WAS SAYING, JUST DO WHAT YOU NEED TO DO. IF YOU PUT IT DOWN, THEN YOU WILL BE HEARD. I HAVE BEEN THROUGH ENOUGH BAD TIMES, AND RELATIONSHIPS, SOME MY FAULT, AND SOME NOT. I DO KNOW, UNDERSTAND ,AND ADMIT THAT WHEN SHE WENT THE FUCK OFF I DEFINITELY KNEW THAT I WAS GOING TO BE IN TROUBLE. PLEASE DON’T GIVE UP, AND IF YOU WANT TO TALK ,WELL KINDA JUST FEEL LIKE IT’S OK BECAUSE IT’S OK