Basically what happened was. Hooked up with this guy for the second time. The first time he came a bunch of times from both intercourse and oral. He tried to make me orgasm but I couldn’t. Then this time we were hooking up and he was fingering me and i told him I just wanted him to touch my clit but he kept wanting to put his fingers inside me bc it turned him on to feel how wet I was. I got annoyed because that didn’t feel as good for me so I asked him can I just do it myself and he can kiss my neck and touch my boobs and then he was like “omg you require so much”. I felt pretty annoyed bc I had made him come several times from the bjs and those took a ton of effort. It’s kinda annoying how I feel like he is making it all about what he wants to do. What do you think Reddit? Do I require too much?
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He sounds immature, selfish, and inexperienced.
You do not require too much OP! Just a man being clueless about female pleasure and making it all about himself.
You hurt his ego by asking if you can do it yourself, and he became defensive. I wouldn’t worry, find yourself another, preferably more secure hook up
He was in the wrong. When someone says “I want you to do this” you don’t ignore them and do something else entirely.
He’s a moron and selfish. Case closed.
No, he’s insecure, I’ve never once in my life started pouting because I needed to change things up.
He doesn’t do what’s required and can’t take corrections.
What may work for one woman may not for the next, hence mental flexibility is required, he doesn’t have any.
It’s like he showed up with a predetermined plan on how he would perform, and when that didn’t work he threw a temper tantrum
It’s never too much if that’s what you want sexually. Either they’re willing to do it or not.
In this case it doesn’t sound like too much at all, just sounds like he’s a jerk.
He probably doesn’t know where the clit is, so was just making excuses
Sounds like he was immature and selfish and got his wittle ego bruised because your body doesn’t work the way he wanted it to. You’re perfectly fine. He needs to pay more attention to his partners and less to what I’m guessing is shit he learned by watching porn or his skewed perception from other partners faking it just to get him off of them.
Find a better hookup
Thanks for the support Reddit. I just feel kinda like shit bc he gets more girls than I do guys so. Like no skin off his back if I don’t wanna hook up again haha. Whatever I guess
You: Give him very simple directives, which he chooses not to follow.
Him: “you require so much.”
Lol
Selfish lovers are soon to be ex-lovers, 100% of the time. Goodbye is the word you’re looking for.
You made very reasonable requests, and they responded very selfishly. Time to find a new FWB.
He sounds selfish and only cares about him. Move on, plenty of guys will do better
Sex is a give and take. Everyone involved needs to put in the effort. You communicated what you wanted in a clear manner. Sounds like he wanted to take more than give.
Some guys aren’t givers. It’s not you. You enable him if you keep seeing him.
That fool should take out his tongue and go to work.
He’s an idiot and does not deserve to have sex with you.
Asshole watches too much porn. I wouldn’t hook up with him again. Terrible listener and it’s obviously not that much fun for you.
Sounds too focused on doing what he wants and not what you want
You really don’t require too much. If anything he’s not worth your time. As a man myself I can only get off if the woman starts orgasming. As such I find this selfishness of the guy just awful. Unfortunately there are a lot of him out there. Whatever you do please don’t let this discourage you from communicating with your partner. Most of my gf’s(ex’s and my current girlfriend) I felt like I really had to drag their sexual desires out of them just to bring them to their big O. Please guys try and learn to pleasure your sexual partner. I promise it will lead to a more fulfilling climax.
Dude’s being a selfish jerk. Move on
Just one of the many unfortunate cases of a man not caring about the woman’s pleasure. It’s childish, ego centrist and rude.
You gave him a chance. Actually you gave him two. Drop him and move on.
You’re asking for the bare minimum. Drop him from the roster.
Um he is just lazy and don’t want to put in the work to make you happy, be careful with people like that.
You are a fellows dream to me. Not every girls buttons are the same. I love it when they let me know what they like so that I can please them. Dude sounds like a douche, bounce him
Block this guy and never see him again. The VAST majority of women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. This guy is both uneducated and a massive douche
Nah, dude is a trash lover. If a woman im sleeping with tells me how she likes to be touched, you best believe thats exactly what im doing.
I always felt like its her pleasure first, then mine.
So dont worry, hes just an immature dude with a fragile ego. Move on, theres better dudes out there
Basically he’s telling you he thinks he knows more about your body than you do AND he is putting his feelings and ego before your pleasure.
If a chick tells a guy how to make her orgasm and he refuses to follow the instructions, he requires too much.
He made YOUR pleasure about himself…that’s so weird
Came here to say the all the other girls love it is the biggest line of shit! First of all, its probably fake. Either they didn’t say it was bad OR he is just lying. But hey guess what, we are who WE are. Your body is YOURS. You dont have to like something because other people did. Someone who is actually good in bed knows that. Being good in bed means listening to your partner. It means doing what the person whose body you are playing with tells you is good! This isnt a hard concept. He is an ass. You dont have to prove why you have a preference. Also women almost always come from clitoral stimulation.