Lately, I’ve been having a hard time getting past a rejection because I find it difficult to understand.
Basically, our date was several hours long, it was also intimate and romantic with lots of physical intimacy. At the end of the date, we really excitedly talked about continuing to date and what dates we could go on, and we even planned one. She said she was having an amazing time and was excited to hang out again, and she texted me the same thing when she got home. I‘ve rarely been that confident about getting a second date.
Then, less than 24 hours later, everything was different. She said she wanted to keep hanging out only as friends, then she said our date felt “platonic,” and when I tried to ask her what she meant by that (on account of the physical intimacy), she never responded and we haven’t spoken since.
It’s been hard to get closure and make sense of it because I don’t understand how everything changed so completely and so fast. It’s kind of like a whiplash feeling.
I was just wondering what other people think about this and if anyone has advice on how to move on.
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When a first date hits off so well but seems to go downhill after I feel like it’s normally because we tried each other out and something wasn’t perfect or they are afraid to catch feelings while they are dating around.
I go with the flow of a first date for sure but you never know what will happen so that’s why people recommend you don’t put out on the first date.
Sounds like she’s letting you down easy. No point in dwelling on it.
It happened to me once. After the date I saw someone I liked and I realized the attraction was 1000% stronger even if we weren’t dating. It put the nice date in perspective. It was nice, it was awesome, but not feeling this real attraction made me really sad and I didn’t see the man again. I wish I would have felt it though, really.
Maybe she saw your post history…just kidding. Sometimes closure is overrated. A thousand things could be happening. Boyfriend, husband, mean friends, sober, clarity orgasm, the list goes on. Don’t be friends, don’t shut her out. Be yourself and find your own way. Good luck
I’m rooting for you
Her ex hit her up
She took the dinner leftovers home to her main guy.