so I’ve been h*rny lately or just want some boob play or kissing maybe even sex. I’ve been craving for awhile but meeting up w someone new is just too draining for me and yes I’ve tried masturbating but I still want more. I’m not sure what to do and sexting really isn’t my kind of thing so. Like yes I do want to meet someone but I’m also shy abt it and I tend to overthink so much abt it. Like for example I just want to hangout w someone and see how the vibe is and how comfortable I am but a lot of guys just r ready to do the deed and it sucks to ask them to be like hey let’s just hangout cause they expect so much more. I am still deciding what to do and I do want to meet up w someone but I just wish it could go slow. I’m down for a fwb but nowadays people aren’t careful either. What do I do? Do I just rot in my bed. i get uncomfortable meeting w men sometimes but I know it’s just my anxiety talking and it pulls me away from opportunities. But I am also scared and u know insecurities abt weight it’s like a whole issue. I think I need to get over it right
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Try dating?
For what I’m understanding what you want is between a bf and fwb.
You could go with a datting app or site or just asking a friend to meet someone new, as it can be easier for you meeting them with a friend of yours
In a datting app you can tell them that at the start, that you want to take it slow and you’ll find a guy in 10 that want to take it slow
If it was me, I’d say make yaself a ten commandments list that can’t be broken.
01: Condoms for any penetration.02: No sex on 1st meeting
Basically think of things that would be a red flag to you that can’t be ignored, make a list of them, then prioritize them into your top 10.
Anyone that breaks any of them at anytime it an auto bye bye, no 2nd chances.
Also:
Meet in places you know, routes to your car or bus/train stop from where you are based, do all your prep work before hand, knowing you got all your bases covered will help your anxiety.
PS: if drinking or going somewhere that serves alcohol, always keep your hand over your glass, never let it out ya sight either.
Best of luck.
EDIT: That advice goes for any gender on either side of the equation.