Hey people,
I’ll make this short – this woman was the best friend of my cousin for years and I know her for \~3 years.
We were good friend and then +/- 2 years ago we kissed briefly but were both like “we can’t do this” as it was sort of behind the back of my cousin. So we stopped but tension was still there and it sometimes became bizarrely physical (it would not have been a problem to get to the point) but we blocked it. Few months later she entered a relationship and I had a friend with benefits kind of thing with someone. We became super close friends during this time but with this awkward jealousy from both ends.
Fast forward
8-9 months ago she broke up and we started seeing each other nearly every day. It was still bizarre but we did nothing – I started however to have feelings – so I tried to completely block them out – as it’s the healthy thing to do (/s). Who would have thought, we were still close but became more distant – She had something with a dude for a few months, and honestly I was devastated — We still close, saw her even today but the feeling/attractiveness, etc just feels one sided now (to the point where we talked about nasty stuff, and honestly I couldn’t handle it).
For me personally I think breaking up the friendship would be the best thing to do, but something in me likes our friendship too much, the other side can’t handle the feelings I may have for her.
I don’t know if it’s just my pride who is now damaged as it became one sided. She has a couple of red flags (which made me be more cautious about really going in), but I do have some too.
Has someone experienced something similar? would like to hear some objective stories 😉
Be safe.