So at uni, I hung out w my HS friend and his new uni friends a couple of times. But I was not rlly close and many of them hung out with each other more. I only really hung out with them when I was invited by my HS friend.
Summer starts and a few of them have went out to their home countries. I get a text from one of them asking if I want to go out with them.
Is this me overthinking or am I peripheral member of the friend group?
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It could be both. You could be a peripheral member, but that possibly is so scary to you that instead of accepting your perception of it you’ve invented a big question about whether it’s true.
I’ve been there. My recommendation is to focus your thinking on how you would deal with that if it were true.
What would that mean for you if you were a peripheral friend? How do you think you should respond in that scenario?
Honestly it really doesn’t matter most people are so absorbed in their own lives they don’t give other people a huge amount of thought. He didn’t need to reach out to invite you but did so presumably wants you there. If you’d like to go then take up the invite and try and have a nice time.
It’s okay to be a peripheral member if you weren’t really close with them. I don’t think you would be if you were close and of course if they are closer they will hang out with each other more but if you get a text from one of them and you think that then that’s social anxiety.