So, I’ve been dating this guy for 2 months now. I said after 3 months I’ll make my decision. I’m noticing some problematic flags. I just want to make sure that I’m not tripping. He has a lot of female friends, 5 that I know of and one that’s engaged. While we were in bed he sent one of them a good morning text in my face. I told him the next day that was disrespectful af. All of his friends text him all day and night, but when we’re not together he barely texts me.
Also, he doesn’t have boundaries with his friends and his ex gf broke up with him because he was emotionally cheating on her with his friends. He said he wasn’t, but I agree with her (he told me this information that’s how I know). Also! He said he wants to go too Vietnam but he thinks his friend (girl) probably can’t go because of finances. I said I’ll go, the next day I asked him what was her name? He said it’s not a she but a him. He’s lying.
Secondly, he rarely ask me questions about my life. He only talks about himself.
Thirdly, he got mad that I asked him to buy this lace body suit for me. He said you never bought me a gift or paid for dinner. “ You got a job. You make money. You haven’t bought me anything.”
Later on he was saying how his ex put him in debt and I believe because he was cheating (he slipped that up) and he was dating another woman and said she was using him for money. But! I’m like what do you expect at 42 year old dating someone in their 20s?!
I am dating another guy, but I was a bit attached to this man first.
Update: the men commenting are problematic. Most ppl date multiple ppl before they decide to settle down with someone instead of putting all of their eggs in one basket. Because! Ppl don’t show their red flags until months later. You all cannot let it marinate that he’s texting other women while in bed with me. The math isn’t mathing. Yea let me text another man while I’m cuddled up with him in bed. Y’all need to stfu.
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Kinda hard to read, but why are you with him in the first place? Near the end it seemed that you implied the only reason you were with him is bc he had a job and money
why are you dating him ..
Sounds like my ex. Avoid this guy like the plague there’s red flags written all over this
Wait? You’re dating someone else? And worried this guy is cheating? And mad that he won’t buy you something you want?
From my experience, generally women who give ultimatums or are nonagreeable like the way you describe are generally limited to bedroom fun by the majority of men. If a girl said “3 months and ill make a decision” or “buy me a present” when we arent even dating, etc , id basically just hit and quit
Actually it sounds like all the flags are on you! You sound jealous and controlling.