I’ve been wanting one for the longest. I’ve told my mom about it jokingly and she’d laugh about it. I’m close to my mom & can talk to her about stuff so I feel like if I was to seriously ask her, she’d be okay with it. There’s a spencer’s that has a big selection right up the street from my house. She should understand that me masturbating with toys is better than me out here having sex with boys (that rhymes lmao).. I just don’t want it to be weird when I ask her. Any advice ?
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Easiest to just be honest and ask her.
Just be honest and tell her that you’d like to explore your sexuality and sexual wellness.
Spencer’s sex toys are cheaply made and overall poor quality, I would avoid them unless that’s your only option. They do have cute novelty stuff though.
My advice would be to buy a prepaid Visa or Amazon gift card from your local grocery store. You can find decent toys on Amazon for under $30 and there are no age restrictions. That’s what I did.
If you have a good open relationship, talk to her about it.
You gotta sit her down and talk to her. Also, spencers stocks like novelty toys that are low quality. Go to [amazon.com](https://amazon.com) to pick one out.
No like, welcome to sex being an adult thing. You don’t play it off. You sit down with your mom and you look her dead in her soul and say “I want to get a sex toy or two, I’m too young to buy them on my own, will you please help me with this?” and go from there. There’s no way to avoid it possibly being weird, that’s about how she reacts to it, but if yall are close and can talk you can straight up tell her like you dont wanna go find a guy you wanna just take care of your own needs, but you have needs now and like please help you do the adult thing and take care of yourself.
I wouldn’t ask for permission. I’d just get one on my own
Get a ride from a friend
If you can talk to her then ask her if she can recommend one or if you should look it up on the internet. Definitely get one that is better quality and body safe; you don’t want an infection.
Target/Walgreens/Walmart all sell sex toys. Average price is between $25 and $40 or so. With toys, you will need a bag or something to keep it in that won’t effect the material, a cleanser, and lube.
Mail order is your friend.
Sounds stupid, but have you tried your hairbrush?
Alternatively if you have your own money, just go and buy one in store or on Amazon. It’s often something that is kept private, so even if your mother finds out, she’ll probably not mind and understand why you didn’t speak to her about it.
Good luck luv, stay safe 😊
The gift card idea sounds the best to me! If you don’t want anyone to know make sure you get it mailed somewhere else also! Good luck
Make sure you get a good lube like Divine 9
Eventually you are going to spend $120-150 on a good vibrator like a Magic Wand or a Lelo device. If you have the money, I’d skip the cheap dildos and vibrators and get a decent vibrator at a $120-200 price point.
Talk to your mom, she may even have recommendations for your.
They sell “personal massagers” in the grocery store next to the condoms and lube.
You are 15! You should do your homework or go out with your friends, not buy sex toys….
You should have the talk with her. Tell her about how you feel and your urges. As well as letting her know that you are wanting to act on urges but not with other people. Hope it helps
Talking to parents about sex, especially as a teenager, is always embarrassing. Totally natural! I’d definitely take a second to appreciate how cool she was about the situation though.