I had a first date today with a man 9 years older than me; the largest age gap I’ve yet to experience by 7 years. He was so confident and comfortably affectionate and sooo sexy. Like so fucking sexy. The date went well, we kissed a handful of times and both texted each other later after to say we had a great time.
To be blunt, I’m super horny and can’t stop thinking about him. I want to text him and tell him I’m thinking of him because I’m hoping he’d find it sexy, but I’m not sure if it would be received that way? To clarify, we talked about relationships and how we’re both on dating apps right now (how we met) to have fun and see where things go. I’d like to explore a casual sexual relationship with him, nothing more at the moment.
That being said, I’m more so looking for advice on what to do with the knowledge that I just want a casual friends with benefits thing. I don’t want a serious relationship right now, so I don’t feel that advice geared towards how this may affect a long term relationship would be applicable.
I just want to say something sexy but I don’t want to be a creep! I’ve never had a casual relationship before. Any advice??
[Ages are F21 and M30]
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Sure you could try but it depends on if he’s up to it or not. He might want to take things slow. If he is then crack on.
If you both already have the goal of having fun and seeing where things go anyway there definitely won’t be a bad response from telling him how sexy you think he is. Us guys generally love that kind of attention too so I say it’s more than likely to be a good idea. I don’t think you’d be creepy unless you say something real messed up lol
He’s 9 years older than you he is here for some cudi.
Go get some pipe cabrón, don’t overthink it. Have fun and be safe.
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?? Text him please
I am of two minds on this.
On one hand, being this needy after a first date is… kinda weird. It almost sounds depesrate.
On the other hand, it also sounds incredibly hot, that he turned you on so much, you regret not jumping him and ask him to go to a hotel ASAP.
You can text him and tell him that you dreamed of him… that’s not sexual… unless he wants to take the convo that way. And if he does, there’s your opening.
You can call him over the weekend, and if possible, have phone sex with him, and see if you two are thinking about the same things.
If that works, you two then need to meet and set up both of your expectations (nothing long-term).
Tell him you had a lot of fun with him today, and are looking forward to more fun with him again…in a flirty, but not overtly sexual way. If he has any modicum of social intelligence, he will get the picture. Then, be VERY receptive to the next date he wants to have back at his place…if you are ready to take your fantasies to reality. Save all of the explicit sexy, dirty talk for him in bed/couch/kitchen counter/etc.