Sorry for typos/poor grammar or format. On mobile and just getting everything off my chest
A little bit of context:
I stopped dating/being romantically interested in people because of abuse, I never thought I’d like someone again until Around last October I met this guy J at work, I eventually got his number and welll..
We went on a “date” kinda sorta? I invited him to the movies, dude ended up bringing a friend and over all wasn’t the best experience, we stopped talking a little bit after Valentine’s Day since I sent him a message saying (hey happy Valentine’s Day) and he just copy pasted my message and I was a little hurt..like he didn’t even try to change anything about it.
Then after a few months around I wanna say march, I was kind rude to him (do to a unrelated issue) and I apologized. He said “It’s really okay, I didn’t really even notice or quiet honestly care.” Most people see that as hella rude, but he’s always seems stand off ish (I genuinely thought he had some sort of social anxiety or something but I truly don’t know) so him saying that I had felt that was his way of being nice. And it reminded me why I liked him, the reason I liked him is because there was never this pressure to perform, like we got along great. After that I asked him out again, I sent him a message saying ‘Hey man, I think you’re really funny and nice, if you’re free, I’m free.”
And then he ignored me? Or at least didn’t respond to the message. for like 2 days, I didn’t see him at work so I don’t for sure but he eventually responds “That’s nice and all but, I don’t think *my gf wants me to hang out with girls alone*” That response literally sent me into fill on panic mode. I immediately responded “Oh I had no idea haha, my bad” he responded “Nah, it’s chill. I’m not really open it about it.” After that we didn’t talk at all. I shortly after left that job and I hadn’t seen or heard anything. I still went into my old job (it’s a grocery store) and I never seen him sense so I figured he left too and I never see him again.
Well until about 2 weeks ago, I was shopping with my step dad And I heard his voice say “Have a good day.” To someone random And then my step dad said “You too man!” , he then joked back “Well that wasn’t exactly for you but you too I guess.” Then we made eye contact for a second then he walked away.
Since than a lot of stuff had been happening that reminds me of him! First I got a notification from insta saying “Contact ‘j’ is on insta!” Or something along those lines but i didn’t even realize I still had his number, I had deleted the texts after the last time we talked. Then now on Tiktok there always seems to be a character with his name, and yes his name dose start with a j, it’s not a common one or at least I haven’t been hearing that name being used until now so often! Then one of my friends (who I met and hadn’t told anything about this) was talking about a club she had joined and said “Yeah and there’s this new guy j w.” He’s kinda nerdy looking (Which she used his name and described to a tea, even meantimes some dumb jacket he always wears )
I dunno, I had forgotten about him, I’ve been on dates between then, I’ve even been in a relationship and now all this flooding of one guy keeps coming back and it’s so irritating. I don’t want to think about him and even for a moment if I forget about him something immediately pops up in my brain about him.
I don’t plan to ever reach out to him again. Of course if he where to ever reach out I wouldn’t be rude. But I feel like I’ve already done enough and I don’t really even want to see him again! I just can’t seem to forget it ether.
To be honest I think making this post will help. Since now I’ve been able to verbalize and maybe even get people to set me straight or give some advice?
TLDR: met a guy at work, tried to date him didn’t work out, stopped talking and honestly forgot about him for a while. but now everything seems to remind me of him.