I’m pretty sure I got played. I fell in love with this girl online, our personalities matched up just right, and I was stupid.
I sent her money. A lot of it- we video chatted a few times, had a lot of phone calls, and planned for me to come out to where she lives- over 1200 miles away. I’m sitting in a hotel room alone right now in Milwaukee.
The room is silent. Just the sound of my breathing- waiting for her to send me a place to meet at. She talked to me the entire way here, each time I took off, each time I landed, even when I got the uber to the hotel.
We were going to meet at the lake. She said goodmorning five hours ago, and hasn’t said anything since. I’m so stupid I legit thought it would work out. I got a job that would allow me to relocate here, if things worked out with her. I used to stay up if she was out late, becauase I was worried. I gave this girl everything, and now I feel absolutely crushed and so alone.
I have to wait until 5 tomorrow to go home, back to work at a job I got to make sure our futures wouldn’t conflict. I’m so stupid.
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This is why you ask for proof.
Wow this is really sad and heartbreaking, but yeah for future reference you shouldn’t give women you’re talking to online money it’s either a woman scamming you out of your money or a dude pretending to be a woman scamming you out of your money so either way bad idea.
Omg how long were u guys talking for? Im so sorry
It happens.. I’m real boo lol
I’m so sorry babe. There’s a special place in hell for people that purposely awaken affection for their own advantage. Sending you support 🙁
We were talking for about 6 months.
Lies! Impossible, people cannot be real!
I’m sorry a scammer got ahold of your heart and your money. I can only imagine how you must be feeling today. Please consider going out and doing something rather than stay in your hotel room alone. Take care
The same exact thing happened to me except she was a real person and I flew from NY to New Mexico to meet and potentially travel together and when we were having dinner in my air bnb I was at she told me that everything she had told me was a lie and the countrywide road trip we were supposed to go on wasn’t happening I was crushed best thing you can do is move on and use these bad experiences to make you better
You sent that dude money? Your f’in dumb.
Damn bro that sucks. Try to pull as much positives as you can out of this experience and better yourself. Anytime you take an L in life use that to grow.
What helps for me when a girl stops communication, I just tell myself “Damn, poor girl died” and then move on.
I’m so sorry that this happened to you. You didn’t deserve it. I think in the future you owe it to yourself to have more boundaries with people, especially after seeing an example of a truly shitty person using you
Debatable. Don’t jump to conclusions immediately, anything could have happened. If this person did make the effort to call you and spend time with you, they at least deserve to be heard out once they get back in touch.
I feel like this is a cautionary tale of online relationships. I am so sorry this happened to you, but to hell with her and this bullshit. Good on you for having the guts to try.
I feel you brother. I had some sort of a similar experience but it’s 100 times worse. The betrayal feeling hurts and it will take you time to get over it. Feel free to reach out if you needed someone to talk to about the whole thing.. I wish I had anyone to talk me through it back in the day I’m pretty sure it would have helped alot.
How do you fall in love with someone without even meeting them? Bro you’re simpin way too hard get a grip
Hey man, I’m so sorry this is happening and I can’t imagine going through this whole grieving process while you’re stuck in a strange unfamiliar place alone. I just wanted to suggest considering posting in the Milwaukee sub and seeing if you can salvage the trip in at least some way.
I know people post in my cities sub from time to time about finding themselves alone in the city for one reason or another and a bunch of locals always jump at the chance to meet up and take them around to ensure they leave with some positive memories. Either way sending you support, hang in there ♥️
Hey it’s possible she maybe fell asleep. I mean I know it’s unlikely but it’s something I’d do without meaning to, so there’s a chance. Also, if you know her full name and city you could try just google-ing her and trying to find her address. Sites like mylife.com and nuwber.com and spokeo.com work pretty well actually. I’m not even suggesting actually showing up, just texting her the address once you find it might scare her into responding with something at least.
A new sucker born every day.
If this is real.. you’ll learn from this what you haven’t to this point in life. Take solace it’s just money and your ego.
Don’t be too hard on yourself. We are all suckers when it comes to affairs of the heart. Learn from it and move on from it.
May be wait till tomorrow morning and see if she gets back to you. But I think she would have texted something if she was in touch with you throughout your journey to her city. If she reaches out and clarifies – talk to her. If at all she played you – you still need to get up and find a way out of this. May be work there for sometime or even relocate to wherever you belong to. Don’t be disheartened.
Look on the bright side, maybe she died
Why would you send her any money? That’s a big ass red flag
Why give her money? That is a huge flag even for someone you are dating in person for a while. Straight up “send me money” is not a relationship thing. I feel for you though, keep your head up and learn from it I guess.
Sorry this happened. Something similar happened to me, but I was in my hometown. Go tour the city in your own. Make the best of it.
Sheeeeesh, I’m sending you a hug through the airwaves. This situation sucks, but it is what it is and you’ll get through this!
Another one bites the dust