A lot of times whenever the subject of guys learning to talk to women is brought up, this is a common response. But how well does it work do you think?
And a follow up question: how differently do you treat the women in your life from the guys in your life? How do you conduct yourself and what topics do you discuss?
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It works well
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I think that it has something to do with the fact that you really dont care about what guys think about you, I talk to both men and women the same way, but I tend to me more patient and understanding towards women, even if Im not attracted to them, than men
It’s ok, but definitely not the whole picture. You want to be able to have normal conversations with women, and a lot of guys feel like everything they say has to reach this threshold of awesomeness in order to be attractive, so for them, telling them to do this is exactly the right course of action. But there are ways we talk to women that we don’t talk to men; we don’t flirt with other men, we don’t reflect softer, feminine energy at other men, we don’t subcommunicate intimacy with other men, and we don’t look at other men the way we look at women while we talk. So, while the advice gets most guys a fair bit of the way there, and while I would say the vast majority of conversations with women are 95 percent similar to those you’d have with guys, there’s definitely an element to it that’s different, although the differences are more subtle than a lot of guys think.
You have to expres all of you
I don’t think I can help it, I talk with much more respect and care with a guy than I do with a girl.
I understand the shit that guys go through the hate we receive and the pressure we’re under. I can’t empathize with a girl at all at the same time. Like you’re on a different team, get your house in order then we can talk. I’m trying to do the same with mine. So yea, that’s why it’s hard. They’re not the same, they’re not on your team
And when you inevitably fuck up, they won’t be holding your hands like an older brother trying to correct you to be a better man. They’re gonna make sure everyone within a 100 mile radius knows what a red flag you are.
Totally works. But add thoughtful compliments here and there when warranted.
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