Would you marry your partner if they did not have a stable or no source of income? Why or why not?

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  1. That’s a hard one. If something happened that they couldn’t control but they’ve shown they were ambitious up to that point yes. If they were just lazy and didn’t want to work, absolutely not. Been there, done that. No thank you

  2. No. Both partners having some form of income increases the couple’s financial security. Also a man who doesn’t want to work turns me off. Why can’t he get a job?

  3. Yes, although important money or lack there of doesn’t define who you are as a person. Which is the most important thing imo

  5. My partner married me when I didn’t have a stable income and I would have done the same.

  6. No. A wedding is an expensive thing. I’d wait until we we’re in a better financial position before getting married.

  7. Only if it’s a temporary setback that was out of their control. If this is something that’s been an issue for a while, I wouldn’t feel comfortable. I don’t want to be the sole bread winner.

  8. Yes, he is my life partner. Through good times and bad times. His worth and contribution to my life is so much more than providing income.

    During our relationship we’ve both been without income and we’ve both supported each other through those times cause we know we have each others back, we work towards our goals and that life sometimes throws you a curve ball or that living without an income sometimes is necessary to reach your goals.

  9. How old are we?

    I married my partner when he was entering graduate school. So he didn’t have an income at the time, but he had a plan I believed in & the drive to make it happen. That made it much easier for me to support him in that goal, and now we share the fruits of that investment- by both of us – together

  10. No, which is why we aren’t already married. To me marriage is about love but also is a business transaction. If you marry someone, you’re saying that the way they are now is good for forever. I’m not willing for my partner to be unemployed forever, so we’ll get married when he’s able to find a stable job.

  11. My partner doesn’t want to marry me until he is financially stable. I personally don’t mind either way since we’ve been getting by just fine living together for a few years now. But I think he wants to be in a place where if we have kids he could surely support us all. Which I feel is reasonable, I’m not in a hurry. Plus we don’t even know if we want to get “officially” married or just have our own special ceremony without the legal system.

  13. I wouldn’t date, move in with or marry a person with no income/way to support themselves, because I’m not in a position where I can live comfortably while supporting another person, nor would I want to be in that position.

  14. No. I met my husband when we were both in our early twenties and I was still in college and he was working on getting promoted at his work. I told him I wasn’t getting married until I owned a house and we both had stable careers. It took us 8 years to get there, but I wouldn’t change how we did it.
    However, If my husband wanted to go back to school or take time off from work to pursue a different field I would support him financially as long as it was a reasonable opportunity.

    It is such a comfort to both of us to know if one of us lost our job the other one could cover all the bills until we found a new job.

  15. I would, if there was legit reason why he was unemployed and I could financially support both of us.

  17. Generally, no. I wouldn’t marry someone who wouldn’t be able to take care of themselves. But, I would marry my current partner if he didn’t have a source of income. I know who he is and I know he’s not happy with the current situation, and not trying to take advantage of me. I wouldn’t want to “start a family” tho, unless there is a stability, even if it means no source of income.

  19. I don’t think so. I mean, financial stability is important in a relationship. It’s important to me. I’m don’t want to marry someone that I’m going to be financially on the hook for for an unspecified amount of time because they can’t keep a job or manage their bills. That’s an adult responsibility and you need to be able to do it.
    The only exception is if they lost their job through no fault of their own. But even then I’d want to know that they had a secondary plan in place. And hopefully they’d be getting some unemployment.

    These are all important conversations I’d have with someone before getting into a long term living/marriage situation with them.

  20. No, I have had partners without steady income, I never realized how much it added to my stress and anxiety until I found one that didn’t.

  21. No. I cant support another person.

    Im a mature woman with savings and a good income. But I don’t know how long that will last. When you get older you don’t know what health problems will cost you, and you cant recover from financial setbacks.

    Im married now, but as an attractive, older single woman I got plenty of such proposals.

  22. It completely depends on what led them there and how they were trying to fix it. I wouldn’t date someone that had no motivation to get a job or have a real income. If they were actively trying to better themselves and be in a better position, then I wouldn’t mind the temporary instability in income

  23. It depends. If it was a temporary thing, then yes. But not if it was a constant issue or if he planned on being financially dependent on me then definitely not

  26. No, if someone doesn’t have their shit together, I don’t want to be responsible for half the debt they incur in our marriage and potentially alimony. Also not having kids so there’s no reason for my partner to not be working. If they had an illness or accident while we were married, that’s a different story

  27. Depends on their personality. If they’re a star homemaker – yes.

    But the fact of the matter is: In order to live, there has to be a source of income, so my partner would have to contribute in some euqally important way in order for the relationship to be fair.

    As long as my partner is contributing equally to the relationship, and we’re comfortable – it’s fine.

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