Advice on finding the prostate

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1. Lube! Stick your finger in there slowly, find something that feels like a nut 🌰. Massage it
   Don’t spit…swallow

2. If you’re young and healthy it’s smaller than you think! About the size of a walnut, go in and up and kind of make a hooking motion with your finger. Look up some diagrams to get a better picture of where to feel for it 😊

3. Your middle finger, 2/3 of it in, then while inside, you point at his belly button, it should be there

4. Does he want to try butt stuff on you as well and do you want it done?

5. So,my husband and I explore this every now and then and they make anal prostate toys made specifically for that 😊

6. Check out the subreddit prostate play
   Lots of help there for people such as yourself and bf

7. Make sure your nails are short and filed smooth.

8. You don’t need to put anything up the butt to stimulate a prostate. You may be able to get a feel of it by massaging the spot between the balls and the anus, closer to the balls. You’ll need to apply some pretty high pressure though to get through all that flesh (one of my vers partners has a massage gun that works great, but a wand vibrator works too).

   If you do plan to do any butt stuff, I HIGHLY SUGGEST that he does it to himself before you are at all involved. He needs to learn his own limits, how much he needs to prep, how much lube he needs, and what feels good for himself.

   I left a pretty lengthy comment about pegging education recently that also applies to general butt stuff, that may or may not be worth reading for you.

9. As a male, I’ve never had luck finding my own prostate. However, I put a prostate stimulator in while having sex once and it did nothing for me during the act, but my orgasm was so intense and powerful. I’ve since realized I love cumming when there’s something in my ass. No luck with the actual stimulation of the prostate pre-orgasm, but having a plug in during an orgasm has been life changing

10. I personally think 2 fingers a little more then half way in with a come hither motion paired with a blowjob/handjob is the best strategy. 1 finger just feels weird to me idk. But yes it really does cause a very very intense orgasm

11. Put finger up butt.

12. You have to go in the butt, but this stuff is gay tbh, I’d be questioning his sexuality if he does end up enjoying it

13. Just make sure to warn him before you try!