I (20F) am in an international LDR with my boyfriend (23M) of 2 years. He doesnt seem to be intimate with me when were apart anymore. When were together, he is intimate. However when were apart (which due to the distance its more often than not) he doesnt seem to want that intimacy. For example, he never tells me when he’s horny, he never asks for nudes anymore and never wants to do anything sexy/intimate over the phone anymore. This is the complete opposite from how he was at the beginning of the relationship were he was like this all the time. Even at the beginning of this year he was still doing some of these things (just not as much) but for the past several months its been non existent. Im pretty sure his sex drive hasn’t decreased- he used to always be horny and im sure if we were in person hed want sex all the time. I dont know why hes like this now, I feel so shit, like he doesn’t want me anymore and is probably getting what he needs elsewhere- such as looking through other girl’s pictures, porn etc. im not sure what to do or how to bring it up to him. I dont know if this is normal in a long term LDR. Along with this- there is also an issue where I feel he doesnt make me a priority, like it doesnt feel like hes thinking of me much and he never initiates calls anymore.
TL;DR: my international LD boyfriend of 2 years doesn’t seems to want to be intimate with me anymore. He never tells me when hes horny anymore when he ALWAYS used to be horny and would tell me, he doenst ask for nudes or want to do anything sexy/intimate over the phone anymore- he never used to be like this. It has slowly gotten worse over the past year and it has been practically non existent now for several months. Along with this, he doesnt make me a priority anymore, never initiate calls and I feel like im the last thing on his mind. I feel upset that he doesnt want me anymore and thinking he is getting the attention elsewhere (looking at other girls photos, porn etc). Hes my first relationship and sure if this is normal in a long term LDR and I am unsure of how to bring it up to him. Advice would be appreciated!