Are you threatened by sex toys? Why or why not ?

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1. What are you gonna do? Throw them at my head? Beat me with them?

2. No. They just sit in the drawer.

3. I mean I’d feel threatened by a strap on.

4. Only if it is brandished as a weapon by a man named hatchet Harry.

5. No fear whatsoever. They’re there to enhance the experience, not to take my place.

6. I’m not threatened by them, but I know it was more difficult to get my wife to orgasm with oral sex, when we first started dating, when she was using a vibrator frequently.
   Now she rarely uses it (her choice) because she says oral sex is better when she doesn’t use it.
   There are other sex toys that we occasionally use together. But most of the time, we just use each other.

7. Nope. Have at it.

8. My girlfriend feels threatened by them because I’ll stick the suction dildo to my forehead and chase her making rhino noises.

9. After that episode of The Boys?

   Yes.

10. If the toys became a replacement, then a conversation would be needed.
    If the toys became an addition, bring it on

11. Ah well I am threatened, but only due to the fact I’m poorly endowed. Obviously vibrators are a different story though

12. Unless you’re preferring to use them over what your husband or partner has the majority of the time, there shouldn’t be any reason to be threatened by them.

13. I’m only threatened by sex toys if she wields them against me in ways that violate my consent.

14. I’m not threaten by sex toys, but I am threaten by toy trains.

15. I think I’d feel inadequate if a woman I was with had vivid orgasms through toys, but laid there like a dead fish with whatever stimulation I was providing.

    Not that I’ve ever had a problem not providing good stimulation just kind of my thought. I think it would depend on the toy though. Like if it’s a vibrator or some special kind of toy then Imm unbothered, I’ve actually bought the Rose 2.0 for two different girls. But if she’s reaching for some realistic dildo, that’s bigger than me, I might tend to feel that she feels unsatisfied with my size

    Edit:
    Forgot to mention, how could I be mad or threatened of something that makes her feel good? If I were with someone, I’d like to incorporate whatever she likes into our play to experience the most pleasure possible

16. Nah, bring em on.
    …ok the price tag on some of the more elaborate stuff is a bit threatening, but that’s a different problem.

17. Im not “threatened” by it, but lots of women who use vibrators are desensitized by how stimulating they are and can only get off with them. Which I dont think is very attractive. To me its like guys who masturbate to porn so much that they cant finish from regular sex.

18. Absolutely not- they’re you’re teammates, not the other side!

19. Not at all.

    It adds to the spice, why would I be threatened?

20. We have a rather extensive collection of toys and I have purchased each one. I love trying new ones on my wife. I definitely enjoy using her favorites aswell. Only thing I want is to help her climax. Fingers, tongue, toys or all three at once I don’t care.

21. Nope.

    Show them to me, show me how they work, and help me help you become a twitchy puddle of post-orgasmic woman.

    All I need is the three Ws – warm, wet, willing – but if it takes a Rube Goldberg contraption made out of outdated astronaut training machinery to make you happy, let’s get naked and break out the technical manual.

22. I’m only threatened by sex toys if someone twats me over the head with the big purple double ended dildo from GTA San Andreas

23. I learned early on if I had a clit vibrating toy in my night stand to use on girls, there was an 90% chnace they would sleep with me again. So embrace sex toys they’re your friend.

24. Fuck no, if you can find a vibrator that can pay bills and top up the oil in the car, THEN I I might get a little nervous.

25. Nope. They’re my assistants. If I can get her to finish easier with them, let’s go. I’m more than just a dick, I’m a whole experience.

26. A toy is like a calculator and you’re like an accountant. Should an accountant be threatened by a calculator? No. A good accountant makes good use of a calculator. Period

27. They hold me at gunpoint as we speak. Reasons are vague. Something to do with bussy.

28. As long as we both get to enjoy ourselves separately and together I don’t mind at all. I have consistently bought toys for my gfs. If I began to feel excluded then I would feel left out by my gf, not threatened by an inanimate object

29. 70% of women can’t come without clitoral stimulation. I’m all for something that helps. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/stress-and-sex/201209/female-orgasm-time-stop-shoulding-ourselves

30. Nope. Several reasons were not together every night, OMG we can have fun together toys can do things my dick can not, I’m totally secure in my sexuality.

31. I used to be…

    Then a girl brought in the rose, I said fuck let’s try.

    I can actually now say I know what the female orgasm feels like on my dick

32. I use them pretty often but if I’m being honest it does hurt the ego a lot. I always end up feeling like I’m just not enough. Like I’m usually the one putting in all the work and I’m genuinely dedicated to making my partners feel good, it just kinda sux that I’m alone ain’t enough. I know it’s not a size thing as I’m kinda big guy all around. Ik it’s just different people need different things it just stings tho. Especially since a womans sexual prowess is usually of little concern so the pressure is really only one sideded. But at the end of the day if she’s happy sure whatever. I’m usually a little ashamed but not enough not to do it. The price of pleasure I suppose.

33. Why would I be afraid if it’s already deep in my ass?

    Edit: I should’ve read the question.

34. Man here. I have my own dildo and my own buttplug. I do my own things. They are not scary to me. What scares me is betrayal and manipulation that I don’t consent to.

    You are not less of a man for anything tbf. Just do you. Do what you want. Enjoy life. Shed that shame.

35. My most recent ex chopped up a dildo that i had because it was “just like cheating on him”.
    I laugh now because I caught him actually cheating on me multiple times.
    R.I.P. to my $175 suction cup customized pink boy.
    Austin, if you’re reading this, you’re a shit weasel.

36. She said she wanted to use toys in the bedroom but got mad when I shot her in the pussy with a nerf dart.

37. Depends on the toy. A vibrator on the clit? Cool. A cock sleeve because i’m not big enough for her? Uh, no.

38. I really dislike that everything that women dislike about men, is presented as male insecurity.

39. Yesterday I was hanging out with a girl I’ve been seeing and next to her bed she had accidentally left her “massage wand” thing on the floor. So I picked it up, waved it at her and said “yer a wizard, ‘arry”. She called me a dork and we laughed.

    My question to anybody threatened by a sex toy is “should they be threatened by all the porn you’ve been watching?”

40. Not really, they don’t capture the intangibles of enjoyable sex. I realize I’ll never be as fast as a motor driven clit flicker or a 18″ dick with rotating pleasure spheres along the shaft that massage the G-spot in unison to a Bluetooth speaker.

    But at the same time, they’ll never capture the primal lust, the intimate desire, or the extended eye contact of a powerful seduction.

41. You’ve framed the question in a very biased way. Are you looking for actual responses? 🤔

42. Someone wiser than me said, and I paraphrase;

    « A sex toy isn’t a competitor. It’s a tag team partner. It doesn’t matter who throws the last punch, it doesn’t matter who does the most damage. You’re both getting your hands raised in the end. »