Imma keep it short, I am texting everyday with a girl I sometimes feel attracted to. I sometimes feel kinda forced to reach out to her because I don’t wanna confuse her off, we chat on Snapchat, where you can’t turn off that someone can see it when you read the message. Recently I have been getting the feeling that she texts dry, just does the minimum work to reply, we never met, talk via phone occasionally, have been talking about meeting up.
When texting I kinda try to wait to reply for as long as I can because I need distance. I don’t wanna text her daily anymore and it pisses me off that this all is on Snapchat. But I am too scared to let her on open because she might take it as a sign and give me the fault and distances herself too. As someone that tries to be a man I kinda feel forced to check out how she is doing, but I am sick of it. What do you think I should do, just ghost her and leave the ball in her court? Her last reply was just „good morning :)“ and then a numb reply on a previous topic.
TDLR: Wanna get distance from a girl I sometimes like but that I use to text daily. What is better, ghosting or dry replying and seeing what she does about it?
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You know what they say about playing stupid games, right?
You’re way overthinking this.. Just speak your mind and either she’ll reciprocate or she won’t.
If its something thats clearly not moving forward and its just back and forth dry texting then come to an agreement that its best not to continue on… Do not ghost someone.
If its something that you see has the potential of moving forward then open up that topic of actually meeting in person etc…
If I take you at your word, it seems you are afraid to leave her on read because then she will be mad at you and stop talking to you. Since you have stated you don’t want to continue talking then it seems to me your problem is that you don’t want her to be mad at you or upset with you. Are you a people pleaser that hates to see anyone mad or upset at you? If the conversations were better and more validating would you still want to ghost her? You say you feel forced to check in on her because that’s what a man does which is another problem. She is not your girlfriend you’ve never even met her. You don’t need to provide her with your attention I’m sure there are a dozen other guys that she texts every single day.
But honestly OP you state that your intention is to get more distance but I’m getting the vibe you actually want her to reciprocate and give more to the conversation. One of your comments on this thread states that you don’t feel she appreciates you
Send her a one last message and then just stop texting her. The last message could be you don’t want to talk with them or something. Maybe more polite. Somehow?