my love language is acts of service, physical touch, and gifts. all of the physical aspect. but its really hard for me to open up and be affectionate without cringing. my partners love language is words of affirmation. i try so hard to atleast give back as much as he puts in but its so hard for me to say i love you and stuff. i love him, but its hard to say it without feeling kind of silly if that makes sense. hes my first relationship and i genuinely feel like im in love with him, i just dont know how to express it.
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I think you should examine why verbally telling people how you feel about them feel so off to you. Were your parents withholding verbally? Did they make fun of people for being too emotional? Might be some things to examine there in therapy.
As far as being more verbally affectionate, it is a matter of practice and vulnerability. The more you do it, the more it will feel natural and not so exposing. You just have to get into the habit.
Also the more comfortable you become in the relationship, the easier it will be. Think of it like a skill, a safe environment + practice makes anything easier.
Write cute little notes for him 🙂