Hey Reddit. My girlfriend (21f) and I have been together for 4 years. I should preface this by saying that I LOVE giving her oral, and we do it literally every session, simply because she squirms with joy every time I eat her out. But I know that she doesn’t particularly like sucking me off, because her jaw easily ends up hurting after a few minutes, which i completely understand (being bi). I know my mind always gets blown when someone sucks me off, so it sucks that she doesn’t enjoy it. But I also know she likes to pleasure me otherwise, by giving me handjobs (which I love), so I know this isn’t selfishness from her. I guess my question is if there’s anything I can do on my part to make oral more enjoyable for her? And if my desire for oral is selfish in any way? Not really sure how to navigate this situation.
To make it clear: this is nowhere near a break up-able offence on my part. It’s just a bit missing from what I desire from her and I wanna know how to navigate my feelings about it. She’s a wonderful person.
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girls do not know without being shown what guys like. Show her what works best for you. Every guy is a little bit different. Ask her if there is anything you could do better and have her show you.
The desire alone is not selfish. It would be selfish if you’d put it before her being in pain. You seem to not, so all good.
She can do it without actually taking your dick in her mouth. Combine handjob with working on your dick head with her tongue and lips, and probably a few takes inside from time to time unless it’s not painful yet. Also, balls play.
I personally find the most comfortable for me is him lying down and I like on my side and rest my head on his stomach so just the head is near my mouth, you can even both watch TV this way haha. anyway that way it’s just gentle licking and flicking the head pressing with my tongue, occasionally sucking but not hard while my hand does all the work. it’s really fun and no jaw stress at all.