I (17F) and my friend (17F) have known each other for over 3 years now; during that time she has come out as pan and recently I realized I was/came out as bi. For a long time, I’ve had a hard time distinguishing between romantic and platonic feelings, particularly if it is towards someone who is my friend but I’ve realized I really do like her. Herein lies the problem. I don’t want to jeopardize our friendship because she means a lot to me and I’ve had bad experiences with friends confessing before. One of my friends (17M) confessed to me and he was very chill about it after I turned him down but I always felt kinda awkward around him after. I really don’t want this to happen at all. On top of that, she is leaving for University come the Fall and I’m staying here. She’ll only be 45min-1hr away and home on weekends but if something were even possible idk if it would work out.
TL;DR: I don’t want to jeopardize my friendship, do I confess my feelings to one of my friends?
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Don’t tell her about the crush, just ask her on a date. She will understand you’re interested from that. If she says yes, go on the date. If she says no, just be normal.