I am dating someone new. I am happy and in love, everything is perfect but I can’t get my ex out of my head. I don’t miss him or want him in any way but we are not on good terms and I don’t like that. Is that normal? He has been hanging out with his ex before me a lot and I see videos of it, so maybe I’m jealous that he’s friends with her but not me? Idk anymore. He blocked me everywhere. We were on good terms before that happened, so I’m a bit confused. I guess I just needed to rant. Some advice would also be nice.
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This sounds like classic self-sabotage.
I’m leaning toward it’s only because things ended on bad terms. Relationships like that for me have been the hardest to get over, even if I didn’t really like the person by the end of it. It’s just that sense of unfinished business/emotional unresolve. But the fact you can’t offer a resolution to one another, for whatever reason, means that even if everything seemed okay that the relationship was probably unhealthy and you may be missing the “fix” of interacting with this person and not so much the person themself if that makes sense. I would suggest listening to ex cord cutting meditations on youtube. They help you to visualize severing the bond. And if you haven’t blocked him everywhere yet I would suggest you do. Because what happens when you’re happy and finally have him out of your head and then he hits you up because he’s bored? Make room for your own life now.