My wife of 14 years has recently told me she would like to have sex with a man that is inexperienced. She was unable to really tell me why. Anyone have heard of this? She made it clear it’s not the sex with someone else it’s specifically with an inexperienced man. Not necessarily a virgin. Trying to get a more understanding of this fantasy and maybe ways of introducing it into our sex life without having another man join. Thanks in advance.
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I don’t know, I could see that for sure. Wanting to be the one who has power vis-a-vis experience, knowledge…. I think–for me anyway–it might have some “gentle domme” elements to it…. Plus there might also be an “adoration” factor…. Someone who is inexperienced would look at her like she was Aphrodite herself….
New to me.
Best way is to ask ur wife I guess.
Maybe u could do role-playing, where u act as the innocent one?
Are YOU ok with her having sex with anyone else? Maybe that is the first question.
I can see where it could be hot to show a young guy the ropes. Maybe the fact that he won’t be able to hold it and will just blow his load quick and she takes care of him. Or being the first pussy he has ever been in. I mean that is something. To be remembered as someone’s first.
Maybe she wants to experience what it’s like teaching a man and guiding him on what to do.
Hmmm interesting question. When I unpack that in my mind, I think she wants to be the dominant teacher role. Its more then just wanting to be dominant in sex but down right, blow their mind , dominate their thoughts kinda thing. Some men fantasize on this when they want to sleep with virgins.
Depending on how willing and open you are to experiment yourself something might be workable.
She could study up on something, learn all about it. Like milking the prostrate or something. Then get you all tied up make you vulnerable. This puts her in the knowledgeable “experienced” role and you in the vulnerable position. Then she “teaches you” by performing the act on you.
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If your not too shy to act out a fantasy. You guys go to full on role play. You dress young and go to a young persons bar / club and she picks you up. You can discuss beforehand whether you should act all shy like a nerd or all desperate (desperados don’t get laid either).
Hehe, send her this post! It strangely fits her request.
Now seriously. You may try a new thing. Something you’ve never done before. Bdsm? Pegging? whatever else? sometimething you are inexperienced with. Maybe announce it a few weeks in advance, so she could learn about it as much as she can (if she’s new to it too), and don’t even google anything yourself.
You may do a roleplay about her teaching you. just pretend you’re shy and don’t know a thing. Only do what she “taught” you.
When my wife turned 40 her libido went sky high. Along with a high sex drive she became bi-curious and started reading stories of dominant sexually empowered women, she was always submissive. Thinking this was some sort of a female mid life crisis I indulged her wishes and let her dominate me, which ended up being pretty cool. And I also reluctantly let her go out with another woman under the stipulation that she considers a FFM threesome I think that’s fair. She is looking now. As far as understanding her new found preferences I can’t I just roll with it. The cool part for me and you is there is open communication.
Not uncommon but there’s enough variety in this scenario that you should really be asking your wife what she had in mind. Is this something she just wants to think about when having sex? Is this something she wants to roleplay with you and toys?(does she want to dominate you? Peg you? Tie you down?) Is this something she wants to try with an actual younger guy? (If so would this be by herself, or would you be an observer, or would you participate?)
Because she gets to be the only thing in someone’s space that has ever invited his pleasure to enjoy another person to the finish and he’ll be enamoured with her sexually for a good amount of time . She’ll be his main scource or reference for pleasure and other will be measured by her . I’d say find her one and let her have a whipped servant awhile it’ll feed her eego so she’s engorged with self confidence when you guys fuck next.
It’s about teaching, who doesn’t like teaching? A lot of people think people who like naïve or inexperienced people just want to use that to take advantage of them, which really isn’t the case. It can be about that, or it can just being able to expose them to something great like sex, seeing their pleasure for the first time.