Women who were serial monogamists before having a fling, how different did the experience feel?

6 comments

1. [removed]

2. It was weird. I kept imagining us actually being a couple and doing couple things and wanting him to like me like that even though I knew we wouldn’t have ever worked on a deeper level. I don’t know if my brain works like that, being able to just casually hang out with someone I like and not want more. I love being loved too much, I just need to learn how to reciprocate better 🤷

3. Happily married for 15 years before hubby suggested I become a Hotwife and we talked about that for years making sure it’s the right decision. Now I have that supper and intimacy with him and the nsa physical only fun with fantasy men of my choice. One of the best decisions we ever made

4. I tried it once. The sex was bad so I went back to serial monogamy. Casual sex is a nice fantasy, but the reality for me is blah.

5. Freeing. After being emotionally scarred by two ltr in a row I played the field and it was one of the best things I could have done for my psyche.

6. Big thing for me when I started casually dating again after ending a long term relationship was realizing I had to learn about a new person’s thoughts, feelings, likes and dislikes AND having to teach someone new about yourself. Which was exciting and should have been obvious but it was a mental shift for me. Even with a fling, if you’re starting a sexual relationship with someone you have to be able to communicate and listen.