okay so how do i get people to stop making fun/ bringing up something embarrassing i did a while ago because it keeps happening constantly with this one friend, how do i get her to stop doing it because it always puts me into a depressive episode for a few days then when i get better it happens again and it’s like this constant loop
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Just stop accepting it, don’t let it phase you. Maybe tell her it’s not cool
Directly confront her that you don’t like what she’s doing, even if it’s funny to her, it’s not funny to you. Be assertive and don’t give them the reaction they like. If that doesn’t work out, just ghost them for a while. It’s what I’d do.
Sadly people that are like this do it on purpose. Everyone has had a friend that regularly tries to make them like a fool to feel better about themselves. It depends on how good of friends you are. I had a serious conversation with my best friend about her jealousy issues and talking me down in front of other people. She took it seriously and hasn’t done it since. She knew it was a problem and didn’t want to lose me as a friend. There are some people though that only want people around to pick on. If you try to have a conversation they will gaslight you and try to manipulate you. If you have this conversation and they try to talk you out of your concerns be mentally prepared to let them go. Someone who likes to see you suffering isn’t you friend.
Embrace it and make a joke out of it. That way you can laugh at yourself and it won’t feel as embracing anymore