Good friend said she never wants to hear about my relationship

Friend (28F) said she never wants to hear about my (27F) boyfriend (28M)

I have been good friends and living with for over four years. This past year, I met someone and he and I are becoming serious. We live in SF and our rooms are very small/walls are thin. When he and I first started going out, she said she was uncomfortable with having him ever stay over. I wanted to be respectful, so I have only ever stayed at his apartment. She recently started seeing a few people and they have spent the night. I am totally fine with this, and I asked her what our protocol should be for this— i.e. if she is having people stay over, can I let my serious boyfriend?

She said that she was uncomfortable with him because she doesn’t think she will ever be capable of being in serious relationship and doesn’t like seeing the two of us together—it makes her jealous.

Additionally, she also said she likes that I don’t mention him often and would appreciate it if I never brought him up to her. Basically, she doesn’t want to hear about him ever or see him.

I’m not really sure what to do. I get where she is coming from— I’ve been insecure/jealous of people in relationships too. But I don’t think it’s very fair to say that she can have whoever she wants over, and my long term boyfriend isn’t allowed to spend the occasional night. He’s also a big part of my life, so it makes me feel bad that she never wants to even hear about him, let alone ask how he is. I want to support her through this tough time, but I don’t want to put my relationship second to do so.

If anyone has suggestions, please let me know. Thanks!

TL;DR: roommate and good friend is jealous of my relationship and said she never wants to hear about it or see it, meaning I can’t have my boyfriend spend the night, even though she has people stay over too. Trying to find a way to work through this.