Hey guys so I met a guy online dating about a month ago. We had a good first date and he was constantly texting me everyday showing interest but neither of us initiated the second date. Fast forward 3 weeks and he texted again and basically I went ahead and asked him for coffee. He agreed and we met up and had a nice time.
He still is texting a lot and just having fun conversations over text. He texts back right away and I never have to wait long. I ended up asking him to come over last week and we cuddled, laughed, talked, drank some and we slept together. He stayed the night. We did it again a couple days after on Friday with me initiating him to hang out. He’s really affectionate and cuddly. We were glued to eachother. H kept saying how cute and hot I am. I want him to initiate now bc I’ve initiated the last 3 hangouts.
He’s still texting me morning and goodnight everyday and sending me pics of his meals or things that happen. but I’m getting tired of only texting me and not planning dates. It’s been about 5 days since our last hangout. I told him I wanted to go bowling or do something fun when we were together.
He hasn’t planned anything and it’s Wednesday and the weekend is coming up. He also lives 2 miles down the road from me So distance isn’t an issue. Can someone please give advice? I do like him I’m just frustrated with his lack of initiative. Is he just not that into me?
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Ask him why he doesn’t initiate.
No, you didn’t ruin it by having sex. He wouldn’t waste time sending you pictures and messages if he was done fucking you and didn’t want to come back for more. He may be anxious, or lazy, or multidating during the weekend and not sure when he can fit you in.
He seems interested just shy.
-I can’t wait to see what u re planning for our next date-…. Sent!
Also if u have alwaysss initiated he might be used to that and perhaps a bit confused about your sudden change. Give it a last try! Send that text, without asking him why he doesnt initiate things or any of those dramas. It’s too early to get dramatic, be smart about it. Throw the ball on his court in a smart way! Best of lucks! U got this!
You will never ruin anything by having sex “too soon”. That’s a myth
He may not be the type to take initiative or doesn’t know how to.