I had s\*\* with a guy who had a body count of 50+. While we were making out, I put my hand on his lower jaw kinda like holding his face while we were kissing and he gets really pissed. He says no girl has ever done that and he keeps asking me why I did that. I said it feels natural and I do that with any guy I make out. I told him I’d stop if you don’t like it but he keeps going on and on about it. He develops a theory in his head that I don’t like to kiss him and that me cupping his face was me trying to pull away. He said “if we’re gonna do this, you have to be completely into it. You have to allow me to take control, not push away.” Now this guy has a wide range of mental health issues and also drug abuse. Idk if it has anything to do with that, but I really did not think that that was a big deal and I never had a problem before this guy. Did I do something wrong?
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fuck no, i absolutely love that it is amazing.
Your guy is a nut job.
You did nothing wrong,
but if he didnt like it,
respect his boundaries.
PS maybe avoid guys with mental health and substance abuse issues.
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I dont understand what you mean by cupping his face.
No one has ever done that, but I would like it very much.
No, it sounds nice. Maybe find someone with fewer issues.
That’s cute thing to do while kissing. It shows how close you guys are.
This guys hasnt been with 50+ women lol. what a liar.🤣🤣 No man thats been successful with women cares. Guy probably used to pay women for sex with money or drugs.
Nope, I love having my face touched.
If that’s how he reacts but you’re on a different level with needs and wants, then that’s unlucky. He’s going to feel the way he does without apology.
I don’t think you were wrong but you have to make the adjustment if you’re staying with him.
You’re dude’s just weird and assuming a lot from a pretty normal gesture.
Might be some sorta trigger, might be just randomly occurring weirdness but it’s a him thing.
Sad loif not knowing what the F cup someone’s face mean.
Seems like I’m in the minority here, but I’d much rather not have someone’s hands on my face. But no you didn’t do anything wrong, I wouldn’t just told you I don’t like hands on my face and carried on.
A high body count just means he can’t hold a single relationship and is a coward, source i was that kind of guy.
Listen here you little sh!t, you can downvote it, but it dosn´t wash away the truth within it.
You answered your own question: the guy has mental health issues and a history of drug abuse. I hope you used protection and that this was just an “hit it and quit it”.
I can’t recall any women ever doing that.
So I have no idea how that would feel.
I love doing that to people when I’m kissing them, and I certainly appreciate it in return.
I guess this dude just isn’t into that, but it sounds like his method of communication is a little bit of a red flag. If you’re going to continue seeing him, I’d try talking about the way he’s responding to a weird/awkward moment, and how that feels on your end.
No, I love it when my wife does that
Guy with substance and mental issues, run girl. I know people change, but more often than not they dont.
Jesus…
The guy is an idiot.
Nope, don’t hate it at all unless it was too grippy