I’m turning 24 soon and I’ve never been on a date. Never had a kiss either. I lived isolated in the American suburbs for most of my life. I’ve recently moved closer to the city so I do see more people now. It’s just that relationships and sex just seem so alien to me. Most people seem to have like a decade of experience by now and I’m just a weirdo. I am lonely and would like to give dating a shot. I’ve never chased after women because I don’t want to come off as a creep or disrespectful and I’ve also just never really met anyone I’ve been that interested either. I mostly just keep to myself, read, work out, and go to work nowadays. I just don’t really come across nerdy or bookish people. I do want to try dating but I just feel insecure about my lack of experience. Women seem to want experienced, dominant, confident, and established men and I am anything but that. Being inexperienced and shy seems like something that will automatically get me rejected and laughed at. I don’t want to lie about it either I just want to be accepted I don’t want anyone to judge me. Sl\*t shaming has been heavily attacked over the past decade but virgin shaming is still accepted. A man’s value is measured by how much sex he has and he is shamed for being inexperienced.
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Feel that
They absolutely will be. Keep that shit to yourself.
I am dating a man that is 43 and had sex maybe 50 times in his life with two women. One he spent the majority of time with and they were only intimate a couple times a year.
What I love is that he is willing to learn, listen and love!
My only concern initially was he asexual or felt that was enough sex. It would be terrible for me.
Communication is key.
Anyone that treats you like a loser or weird is not even worth pursuing!
Confidence is important so I would work on that. Start reading some books on how to please and take care of a women. There are many good ones. You may also want to consider dating older women for a while too. I loved meeting younger men (I am 46/F) and how they treated me but I am not sure if this is the norm or not.
We just went through a pandemic and many men are EXACTLY where you are at! Also, I started dating after almost 30 years in one relationship. It was very overwhelming and scary.