We’re both 40+ and lately our sex life exploaded, from having sex once every 2 weeks to 2x a day. Before that i would cum within 6-10 mins, now it takes much longer, far too long tbh (my wife is a “one and done” type). My wife made a remark here and there, that i don’t find her attractive anymore which of course is not true.
So any advice how to correct this? Never thought that would be a problem and whatever i try to google, all i find is “how to last longer”.
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The only fix is communication, I’m the same, the more I have sex, the longer I last until I simply cannot cum, can go on for hours.
I mean, stopping all masturbation does help if your also doing that.
Just need to communicate and gain the common understanding that sex is not all about orgasms!
Probably the best way is for your wife to do you first to the point where you know / feel you’re not far off cumming, then pleasure her so by the time she cums you’re most likely to be at same stage too.
You now are the one who needs more foreplay than ya wife, maybe you could try edging your wife sexually too, build her up then hold, release it, then build her up again, then she will last longer to help make yous meet more in the middle of your time needed to finish.
its not about what you say, it’s about what you DO
instead of telling her you still find her attractive, SHOW her that you still find her attractive through your actions
lasting longer is a whole other debacle