Guys who’ve moved in with their GF’s and things turned south, why? How did you fix it, or not fix it?

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1. Right when COVID hit. Moved gf in because
   her lease was up and she didn’t want to quarantine alone.

   Came home early, she was camming on only fans.

2. I was there. Moved in with my ex, we did fine for the first few months, until we moved to a different state, then everything went downhill. Some issues similar to yours, but mine was more she just became a completely different person, like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.

   I really don’t know what to tell you outside of mine didn’t work out. Ultimately communication is the key, she needs to know how it’s making you feel and see if she can do anything to change her approach or just go a little easier on you. You’re both out of the honeymoon phase by this point and now having to adapt to a completely new environment, probably new responsibilities, and also most importantly, two different lifestyles now looking to be relaxed and normal and that’s always going to clash with the others’ expectations.

   Also look inward, look at her criticism from a neutral lens, and ask yourself if you do bear any responsibility for how she feels with as little bias as you can. If there are things you can change, then work on changing them and ask her for patience while you adapt. If there are things that should otherwise be normal in a relationship, then consider she might have something more going on (mental illness, stress, depression, etc) that might need 3rd party help (i.e. counselling).

   What’s the environment like? Is she a stay-at-home partner while you work? Do you spend a lot of time together?

3. Me and my high school girlfriend moved out and got a place together as soon as we left high school. We had a plan to get jobs, only buy the absolute essentials, and save up our collective earnings to buy a place together. Then we’d get married, and a few years later have a couple kids in our early 30’s.

   But of course it didn’t work out as planned. I fulfilled my part of the plan, she on the otherhand loafed around the house all day, squandered all the money I earned on absolute crap and night’s out with “the girls”. I was earning decent money for a kid that just left high school, but I was living pay check to pay check, which was shit. Worst of all, she started talking about getting married and having kids now, mostly as a knee jerk reaction to my insistance that she should get a job.

   I realised I needed to make a decision fast when I spied her discreetly tampering with my condoms. Either I give up on my hopes and dreams of a better live, or resign myself to a life of poverty. In my mind it was a no brainer, but in reality it’s a lot harder to leave someone you loved, even if you know it’s the right thing. A couple of days after the “condom” incident, she went on an all day shopping trip with her friends to buy a new wardrobe. She’d put on quite a bit of weight since we’d left school, so she was struggling to squeeze into her old clothes.

   I was all packed up and gone long before she came back. Although I did call her to break up officially, and her older brothers did inevitably track me down, and beat me bloody. It was still imo one of the best decision I’ve made in my entire life. I like to think of it as though I “escaped” that relationship, rather than merely left it.

4. You will never live to your partners expectations. Relationships are what drive us as couples. If you can’t take the heat….?

5. Girls sometimes change their tune, when you remind them where the door is.

6. She cheated on me.

   Then kicked me out. Dumped my belongings outside and changed the locks.

7. These comments are the reason I believe that living together is incredibly important before marriage. You can never truly know someone until you share a home with them.

8. Very important