So, I’ve been trying to do kegels and o think I’m doing them right but it’s really hard not to hold my breath during. I’ve been testing the strength of my pelvic floor and I can’t tell if it’s weak? I put a finger in my vagina and squeeze and it moves but doesn’t tightly grip my finger. I saw someone on here say their knuckle would get nearly stuck when they partner did a kegel, so not I’m questioning if my vagina is “weak” or “loose”.
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You should def be able to do them without holding your breath. But unless you’re older and/or have had kids, you’re most likely tight enough to not need to actively worry about it. Kegels can be good to keep your muscles strong and increase the intensity of your orgasms, but I wouldn’t worry about not being able to squeeze your finger.
You can try getting some ben wa balls or a similar kegel exercise ball set and that should give you a better idea of your relative strength. If the very small balls fall out of you easily, you could probably tighten up a bit.
You really won’t be able to pinpoint the effect of the Kegel exercise with your finger, you need to check on sets of balls.But I don’t think it makes sense if there are no births in your life, because all girls who have gone through childbirth can face such difficulties, well, to squeeze a finger.. hmm..I do these exercises in the gym and they made me elastic enough, but not to squeeze my finger.Good luck
No added input other than exercising any muscle group is always a good thing, and keeping the vaginal floor strong stops issues like urine leaks in the future.
I’m just delighted to see an adult conversation with constructive input for a change!
Don’t beat yourself up because you can’t squeeze your finger hard. That alone doesn’t mean you’re weak or loose. How tight you can grip your finger depends on how strong your pelvic floor muscles are. Not everyone is at the same level of development. If you’re having trouble not holding your breath, you might be doing them wrong. What position are you doing the exercises in? Positioning can make a lot of difference to someone just starting out.
Please, please, don’t just do kegels because of old wisdom or because people online said you should. Kegels are not for everyone, and in fact, most people really should not do them
If you think you have pelvic floor problems, see a doctor, have them refer you to a physical therapist. There they can do an internal exam and assess whether you need to strengthen or not… Don’t *just* assume you need to strengthen your pelvic floor. Kegels can be great *for the right person*, but as a non-professional, you do not really have a good way to gauge that. You can create overactive pelvic floor by doing kegels, creating sexual dysfunction.
Just as an FYI, the pelvic floor is not supposed to be *that* strong. It isn’t like your glutes, quads, or biceps where you can achieve hypertrophy… you JUST need it to function. There is no benefit to pushing it to be stronger than is needed for it to function.
Believe it or not, the fact that you can’t “squeeze” your finger is not a sign that your pelvic floor is weak. You kinda don’t want your pelvic floor to be so strong that you squeeze your finger… that would lead to a shitload of sexual dysfunction, nerve pain, all sorts of things.