Ok so preface I’ve never asked for advice on this topic. I’m a 27 asexual male and my best friend is a 24 asexual female. I’ve know her for about 3 months through a mutual friend. Mutual friend is older brothers girlfriend. we have hung out countless times but always as a group (the 4 of us). Last night her and Mutual friend spent the night. we played cards and watched movies. we talked to each other for hours till almost 4 am. when it was time for everyone to go to sleep I offered her one of my pillows and some clean sheets. she said thank you and smiled at me. over dinner we kept looking at each other. I haven’t tried flirting with her however I think she wouldn’t be uncomfortable with it…
I’m so confused about what to do and how to proceed. we both have a lot in common, we are essentially the same person. also we both have been abused in the past. even if we just stay friends this would be fine but I think I want more. and I think she does too but we both are extremely shy and we have no social skills.
Please help 🙏
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hi!
you are doing good so far but try and flirt with her one time and see her reaction if she is happy about it take the next step and ask her for a date so you two can talk with eachother more. I hope this will work.
Nothing will happen unless one of you overcomes their shyness. There is no path to what you want that can be taken while staying in your comfort zone.